Babymoon destinations all recommendations gratefully received!

[Victoriasushi]

My husband and I are expecting our first child later this summer and I wondered if anybody had some good Babymoon destinations for perhaps a week or 10 days before I get too big. I would like somewhere relaxing pref. adults only but obviously not a long flight. We are hoping to keep an adults-only time even when the baby is here as I think it's incredibly important to a relationship. We have a budget of around £4,000 all in so any suggestions would be great. Thanks!

This is hillarible

I feel a bit sorry for the OP. She is only having a nice life after all. That's not a crime is it!

(I am a really nice laid back person emoticon)

Its the fact that she is having it on a board full of women being beaten, abused, lied to, cheated on or just plain unhappy in their marriage.

To have a "babymoon" post (the word makes me want to yak btw) is at best thoughtless and at worst selfish, boastful and in very poor taste.

Had this been on the antenatal/travel boards then I doubt anyone would have had a problem.

Oh, that and the fact that I dont believe a word of the OP now I have thought about it. Screams "journo" to me.

'babymoon' as a £££££££ pre baby holiday just makes me go
I could go swim in a pool of tolerance juice and I would still think it's a wanky pretentious ridiculous concept. We had a lovely 5 week trip when I was pg, lots of driving along coasts and stuff. It was lovely and we haven't had anything like it since. Was it a 'baby moon?' was it fuck.

Nasty thread. OP made a mistake FGS. Give her a break. For those that are so quick to jump down a pregnant woman's throat for making a silly mistake, may be best to hold off posting advise on other relationship threads with that kind of attitude.

Just to say that I found the appropriate board where people weren't so aggressive. I personally find it deeply worrying that the people being rude, hostile, judgemental and cold are the same people dishing out advice to posters with relationship problems. 9/10 this consists of 'leave the bastard'' I'm waiting for the day when one of the husbands sues mumsnet for breaking up their marriage. And just for information I am NOT a journalist etc I live in London I am married to a city lawyer who works longs hours so thought mumsnet might be a good place to get some advice. How wrong was I? I'm sorry I'm not apologising for having money to go on holiday. Totally ridiculous. Enjoy you weekend.

If you're thinking of staying in the uk then this hotelis absolutely wonderful and has won several awards. It's adults only.

Not even a stealth boasting post - 1/10 for effort.

The baby won't interfere with life/relationship hahahahahahahahahahahaah
Good luck with that.

Thank you twt for the suggestion that looks amazing :-)

Victoriasushi Fri 11-May-12 18:03:37
Just to say that I found the appropriate board where people weren't so aggressive. I personally find it deeply worrying that the people being rude, hostile, judgemental and cold are the same people dishing out advice to posters with relationship problems. 9/10 this consists of 'leave the bastard'' I'm waiting for the day when one of the husbands sues mumsnet for breaking up their marriage. And just for information I am NOT a journalist etc I live in London I am married to a city lawyer who works longs hours so thought mumsnet might be a good place to get some advice. How wrong was I? I'm sorry I'm not apologising for having money to go on holiday. Totally ridiculous. Enjoy you weekend.

well, haven't you come across well? The advice given on relationships is generally excellent, as you would know if you read it properly, however, many posters found your tone condescending and a vapid. that is what got their backs up, and the "leave the bastard advice" is dished out to women living with bastards. not sure why your DH's job was relevant, aside from being another boast. Enjoy your holiday, well done on the cash and good luck on the "adult time".

Mumsnet HQ are aware of the personal attacks made on me so don't post any more abuse. I was clarifying my personal situation because people starting saying I was a journalist or lying as for 'enjoy the money' could you be any more resentful?

how on earth was my post abusive? I was responding to your post, in particular: I personally find it deeply worrying that the people being rude, hostile, judgemental and cold are the same people dishing out advice to posters with relationship problems. 9/10 this consists of 'leave the bastard'' I'm waiting for the day when one of the husbands sues mumsnet for breaking up their marriage

maybe you should stop being so sensitive.

Ignore the nasty posts on here. I was wondering whether a long haul flight was sensible given that you are only a few months off being a mother.

Is there a luxury spa hotel that you fancy being pampered at nearer to home?

OH and I had a lovely long weekend in Suffolk when I was 6 months pregnant. I still remember it fondly even though it was only a four hour drive rather than a four hour flight.

You didn't receive any personal attacks or abuse. Sheesh.

Blimey, stick around if you think this thread constitutes abuse!

Infact, ask this on Am I Being Unreasonable if you want to see a real flaming!

Get over yourself!

Victoria, personal attacks are deleted by MNHQ...do you see any deletions on your thread ?

Oh dear

OP some people were a bit short and maybe even unkind it's true, but your response is pretty snotty tbh. Maybe it's a bit much to expect you to hold your hands up and admit it was insensitive to post here and that it was an error, you're new and you're sorry... but you could at least have acknowledged the posters who did tried to help (not just one).

And yes, there are no post deletions which suggests that MNHQ agree there was no abuse and no personal attacks. Probably best to draw a line under this and move on now.

Any way I hope you enjoy your holiday and do make sure you get plenty of support for after the birth because your world will be turned upside down. You too will laugh at yourself for thinking any different once you're a few months down the line with a baby who does their own thing regardless of your principles pre-birth. We've all been there so we understand and probably said the sake things too. I know I did.

It sounds like you DID know what the relationships board was for when you chose to post here, OP. I might be way off-beam but I can't help but wonder whether everything is OK in your relationship (genuine concern not attempt to be nasty). You might want to start a new thread, if so, if some of the responses here haven't put you off completely. (Please ignore me if things are fine.)

We went to Jersey on holiday when I was 5 months pregnant and it was marvellous.
Guernsey is a bit nicer though, having been there since.
HTH

Fucking Babymoon. I came on this thread to find out the meaning. I. thought it meant a holiday after the baby was born. Fuck me I got a shock. I want to puke. I have visions of the OP and DP on a beach with him rubbing her stomach and saying 'So should we be thinking of schools?'
Are you incredibly naive to be boasting in this section where you get people with REAL relationship problems?

Oh and married to a city lawyer? Yawn. Too much time on your hands love? Reminds me of that thread a year or so ago about the baby ballet. Listen love over lunch with your mates when your husband is hard at work paying for the 'Babymoon'

No worries Vic. We stayed there last year on our honeymoon and it was amazing, beautiful rooms and faultless service.
I was just thinking I wouldn't fancy anywhere too far away when preggy, also if you go somewhere really hot you will be uncomfortable IME.
I'm 9wks preg now and we were supposed to be going to Kenya in October but have put it off now I am expecting again because I don't want to go somewhere really hot at that stage of my pregnancy. We might go away somewhere in the UK I think instead.
Hope you've not taken any notice of the knobbish remarks on the thread

Hi Victoria, have you found any other board where to discuss a babymoon and holidays in a more amicable environment? I would be interested in joining it