DH has three sisters; two are older by 20 years and one is approximately our age (mid-30's). One of his older sisters, let's call her T, is very much the family matriarch; she's forceful, opinionated, bossy but on the other hand, when not competing with others, can be very kind.
DH was asked to do a speech at his younger sisters wedding recently. FIL is elderly and did not want to do the speech so T's husband (so our BIL) wrote the speech. DH looked at this speech and didn't feel it was really him so livened it up a little and waxed lyrical about how lovely his sister looked, welcomed groom to the family etc. T then whines and bitches throughout the speech saying that it's not what FIL wanted, what was wrong wit the original speech etc. Now the interesting thing is that she didn't say ANY of this to DH, she just bitched to her sister and her husband at the wedding (we were all at the same table) when DH was not present. She has since ignored DH.
FIL's birthday was yesterday and T had spoken with me about DH, DD and I attending the birthday party at her house prior to the speech debacle. I added it to our calendar and told DH. She then spotted me in town last weekend and reminded me again. I told DH. The day of the party, I remind DH of the time and he says that as she has seen fit to ignore him for the best part of two months and hadn't bothered to invite him personally, he would not be going. I suggested that because it was FIL's party, it might be worth showing his face so as not to inadvertently snub his dad. He disagreed.
He called FIL yesterday evening and wished him well. FIL moaned about DH not attending party and not wanting to discuss the in's and out's of his issues with T, DH says that I had not told him about the party date or time (I bloody well had!). Naturally I feel quite annoyed about this as this fib will have spread amongst his entire family and I will be the black sheep. Two of his sisters (including T) can be VERY vindictive and nasty so I can only imagine the things that are being said about me.
I don't really know what I'm asking of anyone who has made it through this post but I feel bloody annoyed by this and whilst I understand why DH feels the way he does, I am now in the firing line (I'm 6 mths pg so don't need the stress and am hormonal enough already!).
Sorry for the detail, did not want to drip feed.