lonely (my own fault) for the first time in my life

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I left my husband (after 25 reasonably happy years) for a younger sexier man. Now its 3 years later and the Man has dumped me. My 2 daughters are grown up and have their own busy lives, my parents both died a few years ago and I am an only child. The ex husband has re married (who can blame him?!). I am still in love with the Man. I am totally bereft and I feel so stupid.
I married quite young, and I have never lived alone. I feel so lonely. I know its my own fault.
I work full time, I get out and about as much as I can, but I am finding it so hard to get used to meals for one and evenings alone in front of the TV. Weekends are the worst as the world seems to be made for couples and I feel so conspicuous going out alone.
Maybe I should just get used to my own company and "grow up"?

Well if you are still in love with the Man, and not pining after your ex, I'm not that worried for you! You're experiencing plain old break up depression. You need to ride it out. Perhaps you need a bit of time to work on yourself & it's not a bad thing to have to sit back, regroup and work out what you want. No one likes to be alone with their thoughts after someone has left them. You need some single friends - not people to download about your relationship problems, but people to go out and have fun with. Any idea how to make that happen? It's all going to be ok. And you won't be lonely forever, with or without a new man.

Thank you. Good point, I have felt a bit sad about ex h but mainly just feel guilty about quitting a marriage which wasn't that bad for what now seems to have turned out to be a "fling". I am joining an am dram group, I have offered my services as a volunteer at a charity and I'm thinking of going to salsa. Trouble is, I don't actually feel interested in meeting another man. I just feel so hurt about the Man. It's horrible being alone. Thanks for your input.

Hey guys, I'm really sorry I seem to have posted the thread twice and now the one that several of you responded to has disappeared. I did post responses to Tribpot Divorcedand2teenDDs Mrspepperpotty Klickklackknobsac and cogitoergosometimes thanking you for your perceptive and optimistic messages. You have all helped me a lot, thank you. BTW the Man dumped me because DD no 1 wanted to come and stay at Christmas. It was him or the DDs. You can guess the choice I made! I'm dreadfully sad but I know I made the right choice.