total loss of libido-what can I do?

[gottachangethename1]

Am a regular but have name changed. My lack of libido is causing misery to my marriage. Dh has been honest and said how unhappy he is, and I can't say I blame him. I just have very little if any interest in sex, or anything that comes close to it. I would be happy to leave it for six months (or more), he would prefer once or twice a week. So there is a major difference!!

We both work hard, and have a teenager. I also help to look after my parent who is elderly and in poor health. I am trying to study to improve my position at work and this takes up a fair amount of time. Life is busy, but I'm not sure if this is why I'm indifferent about sex. I love my husband, I find my husband attractive. I have taken up exercise in the hope that this might improve things, but nothing yet.

I have recently gone back on the contraceptive pill, but even when I wasn't on it I had a very low libido. Dh has suggested seeing a therapist (he is convinced I don't fancy/love him anymore) but would this help??

Will watch this thread with interest as am in a similar situation.

Have you ever had much of a libido? I did, pre dc. I think a combination of exhaustion, birth trauma and lack of practice killed it. How to get it back is the question

Could you be approaching menopause - I had read loss of libido can occurr then.

I am thirty nine, so don't think it's menopause. I have gone through stages of having a normal libido, but this is the longest period of time where I have just had none at all. I don't ever want to be one of those people that has to go through the motions in order to save my marriage, but at the moment I can't think of any alternatives.

See a GP.Could be menopause.Is your husband treating you well, speaking nicely to you?
When he cuddles you, how do you feel?