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Ha ha ha I'm big mug- he really has no respect for me...

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:26

On Friday morning I dropped shitty partner to the funeral of a distant acquaintance, at around 10 am. Spoke to him around 4 that afternoon,letting him know that dc1 was sick and needed to go to out of hours Doctor. Thats the last I heard from him , what an asshole.

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wishiwasonholiday · 06/05/2012 08:29

Does he do this often? Are you sure he's ok and not had an accident or something?

Proudnscary · 06/05/2012 08:31

Has he gone AWOL before? In essence, this doesn't sound so bad considering he was at a funeral and might not have had phone on all day, but I'm guessing this isn't the half of it?

I hope your dc is okay, what is wrong with her/him?

I'm not sure what the 'ha ha ha' is about...

amillionyears · 06/05/2012 08:35

Are you saying he is drunk, gambling, socialising?

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:36

ha ha ha = slightly unhinged sarcasm :( . Yes he does has form for it . It is not resonable to be missing for 48 hours with no contact. Funerals in my area are generally big piss ups, he only went for an excuse to drink ..he has alcohol issues. Believe me, over the years I have done the poor little partner, worried about an accident but it is always the drink. He promised dcs to watch match yesterday and supposed to bring dc to sports matches today.

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:37

excuse spelling

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:38

the actual funeral part was over by noon friday.

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PurplePidjin · 06/05/2012 08:41

Is the the children's father? Do you actually want to let him back in the house? I'd have the locks changed and a CSA application ready to go tbh!

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:45

not in uk..:( yes he is dc father. Think he has taken his dole money ( ie half the family income) from the post office. I am sitting final exams for the first year of my degree, next week. He knows he has me trapped.
I am leaving him but wanted to get the next few weeks out of the way.

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leavesoon · 06/05/2012 08:49

just to add this funeral took place in the next village, 2km away not miles away.

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amillionyears · 06/05/2012 08:53

I would concentrate on you and dcs for now, since you dont think he is in any harm.Try and put him out of your head for now.Easier said than done.Do your degree exam and revision for yourself and your dcs.
I wouldnt deal with your relationship right now.Go to the match, or someone else take them if you have revision to do.Have you enough money for the next few days?

PurplePidjin · 06/05/2012 09:03

Does he know you plan to leave? Have you got a plan for where you'll go etc and some real life support?

It sounds like there's no point going off the deep end at him, just banish him to his sofa and concentrate on yourself and the dc til you can get out.

amillionyears · 06/05/2012 09:32

Ooh, I dont think we have asked if your dc is feeling better?Hope so.

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