to be deeply in love and hurting.

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ok so i split with my man of two year last month, his reason of he doesnt feel he can over any more, i deserve more (he works lit 24/7. a full time 6 night work and part time during the day.) that we should cool it but it wouldnt be for for ever and he wanted me to wait. which i said i would. we tried being friends, but i had to put a stop to it as i couldnt be around him with out wanting to hold his hand small crap that we u sed to do..

iv never been this effected by some one , even my soon to be ex husband i was more relived when we split, some time i would feel sad that it didnt work out, but i grieved the furture not him. but with this person i physically hurt, im burning a hole in my phone hoping he texts/calls. but he wont, even if he wanted to becasue he finds it hard to make a move.

how the eggy fec do you get over some one your deeply in love with. he was the perfect man. to me any way. iv lost my best friend and lover :(

I will tell you something that will save you alot of anguish-he's not that into you. The working too hard thing is bullshit-if he was reslly into you he would do anything to make it happen.

Sounds like he either viewed the whole thing as more casual than you or has met someone else already.

see bellstar, if it was anyother man, i would toattly agree. before i put a stop to being friends, he would still come round with things for me and the kids, and i know if i needed him for what ever reason he would be here in a shot.

but then, i would say that wouldnt i. :-/

It will get better OP but you need to make a definite break not keep thinking he will come back, I've wasted two years waiting and finally realised it isn't gonna happen. It does really hurt but even tho its a cliche time is a great healer you will feel better again sweetheart

What Bellstar just said is tough to hear but it is probably true. Don't waste time trying to get something back that isn't there anymore (at least for him). Move on with dignity, hold your head high and hopefully, sometime soon someone more worthy of your feelings will come into your life. At least I hope so.

YANBU

this all happened so recently, and you loved him. It is natural to be deeply hurting right now. It all sounds so awful. He asked you to wait for him? Gosh but how long does he expect you to do that?

But that's in the future and I wouldn't worry about that right now. I'd do what you are doing. Make it a clean break for a while, allow yourself the time to grieve and be miserable, and just get on with things one day at a time.

It will get better.

your right, i do have to just suck it up and relise its not going to happen again. it just sucks really, dont it.

ranting was helpfull though. :) thank you as well for the kind words.

You will get over him ... eventually. My BF of five years broke up with me when I really didn't expect it, I thought things were great and was more in love with him than ever, I was truely heartbroken, I don't think I've ever cried so hard in my life. It took me ages, maybe even a few years to get completly over him but I did. I realised that I had to move on with my life and I couldn't stalk wait for him forever. That was ten years ago. I'm now happily married with two beautiful DC who of course wouldn't exist if he hadn't broke my heart all those years ago. Even today I still think about him look him up on fb from time to time, I wonder what he's doing but I definitly wouldn't change my DH for him, not in a million years.

i agreed id wait, but not long and deff not for forever.
my girly friends are planning a night of clubbing, in one of my favourite clubs, so i shall focous on that. :)

bit of a headfuck imo to tell you to wait, then want to be friends and hang around...

he probably doesn't want to see himself as the git who broke up with you so he's trying to make himself look like a nice guy and also to let you down gently.

it doesn't work like that though . You need the dignity of a clean break.

so sorry OP. You're going to have to wait for this pain to pass - can't hurry it but you can distract yourself while you're waiting. Have a good time with your mates, look after yourself, do some nice things for yourself, try not to wallow xx