It's all getting so difficult

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Some of you might rememebr me. I've posted several times about mine and (stb)h's troubled relationship and more recently about his crossdressing.
As some suggested it turns out that the crossdressing probably was an attempt to "unnerve" me and appears to have stopped. Shortly before it stopped i found blood stained ladies knickers (not mine) in the washing.H denied they were there but no surprise there. I guess he'd had anal sex whilst dressed up - can't think of any other explanation?
The divorce is now in the hands of my solicitor.
So hard to deal with how he could behave that way, but at least i have no doubts i've made the right decision

Thanks shakey. Yo could be right - he either thinks i won't go through with it , or he knows i will and is therfore going to drag it out for as long as possible to make things difficult - f*ckwit that he it :(

Catalogue everything he is doing to you, take photo's for proof if you can and keep it safe. Don't know your exact situation but it could help with getting him out of the house, not exactly a good example of a parent is he?
As for his dirty washing urghhh.....I wouldn't want it in the same machine as my stuff.

Thanks dondon. Unfortunatley it seems it's unlikelyI can get him out. could take it to court but no guarantee of susccess and will also result in around £2k bill

Ouch ! Can't you request that you want to stay in the house after the divorce because you have Dc? I'm not 100% sure how it works but a friend of mine had that option, she would be responsible for the house etc... but he had to leave and wait for her to be ready to sell it at a later point. She didn't go this way as she wanted a clean break, new house etc. The house was sold and split between them (through the court) at 65% to her as she still had 2 DC at home and the rest went to him. xxx

No staying in the house won't be an option.
Any idea what sort of legal bill your friend ended up with dondon?

OMG - just read an article about the Lundy bancroft book - stbx does/did a lot of those things. VVV scary....

Anyone there who's had to live with stbx while finances, etc are beig sorted out. i feel like i'm going to go mad and there's not end in sight atm

Anyone?!

I lived with my XH for about 9 months after deciding to leave.

Emotionally, I shut down to a large degree and concentrated on getting through each day. I refused to play a lot of his 'games', and said 'yes dear' to pretty much every rant instead of arguing. We were sleeping in separate rooms and, although the rest of the house was a tip, that was clean and tidy. It was my sanctuary.

How are you OP?

Thanks sunny. Yes, I'm trying to do the 'getting through each day' thing. Some days are worse than others. Generally weekends are the wort if i don't have plans. H and i have almost zero communication, it's just is physcical presence which despise, and not ever being able to relax when he's in the house