DH putting me down: shaken

[WelshCerys]

DH has just stood by me telling me that his French "is better than yours, thank you" when I suggested that I helped DS with French school work. This after a morning of low level insults and general unpleasantness.

My French is fine - was brought up bilingually - bit rusty but good enough to help out. Didn't need this - feel pretty low about things as it is. One thing to get insults, nasty stuff from work (it happens occasionally) but not in the home - please.

Does this seem daft on my part? Sometimes you can have one put down too many ....

If it's the latest in a long line of put-downs, then you're not being daft. Sometimes it takes a 'last straw' moment to realise that you're married to an arsehole... Hope you told him "vas te faire encoule..." :)

If you are being treated with anything less than respect, it is not good enough.

When did he start to put you down? What does he say if you tell him to stop doing it?

Erm...well that on it' s own doesn't sound too bad to me (maybe his French is better?) so it's hard to judge!

Dp got a roasting the other day for far less (time and severity) and apologised as soon as I pointed out how nasty he sounded. YANBU in the slightest!

What do you mean by One thing to get insults, nasty stuff from work (it happens occasionally) but not in the home.

Has he been insulting you before? Has he been nasty, for how long?

And since when is it acceptable to be receive insults at work? (or are you working together??)

Oh and one put down is too many...

curryspice it's not an incident on it's own, OP says it is part of 'a morning of low level insults and unpleasantness'.

OP if this were a single isolated incident then I'd think it unnecessary and a bit arrogant or rude. As part of a series of low level insults, it becomes insidious and nasty. You should be treated with respect, not have insults dished out to you.

Are you bickering at each other, sighing, moaning, making sarky remarks, or is it all one sided? I can't say this sounds the worst thing said ever and doesn't necessarily indicate a complete lack of respect, depends what its normally like. Sometimes even very lovely people have an off day (and I'm guessing he was already helping judging by the remark). Hopefully he will apologise though and you can have a nicer afternoon.

Vas te faire enculer would be better, I think thinking of things my (lovely) dd (14) has come out with.

I realise that Heels - I was trying to (clumsily) sy that the OP doesn't give us much to go on