bit of a long one, dd has recently started nursery and I have returned to work part time (and quite enjoyed being back, adult company and all that, no responsibility) anyway only be back a few weeks when nursery called to say dd was ill and I needed to collect her (I had literally taken my coat off and was just having a cuppa)without a second thought I said yes and left work, still at home with her today as she is still not right (conjunctivitis? and chest infection and she is only 8mths bless) as i work a really short day I offered to make the time up even tho I know i'm entitled to the time off (goodwill and all that) anyway the crunch was when I asked DH if he could take some time off to allow me to work and then I would come home and let him go to work, this was met with silence and then how difficult it would be for him to get the time off, I said that if and when she was ill it was both our responsibilities to care for her, in so many words he said it would be easier for me to give up work and become a SAHM incase anything like this happened in the future (sexist???) he says not, is he saying his job is more important?? I think he is, I do admit that he does a very important job and brings in more money than me, but it really annoyed me and I did in the past say i didn't want to go back but i have enjoyed it and I think dd benefits from being with other children (annoying that she picked the horrible illness up tho) I feel somewhat guilty at not going in today but dd comes first and I don't think she is fully well enough to go to nursery but what will work think, my job role is under review in a few months but I want it to be my decision if I leave and not because I've been taking time off if dd picks up every bug going at nursery, am in two minds now whether I should pack it in, I do miss dd lots but i want us to have the best of both worlds as selfish as it sounds, btw i'm working to pay nursery fees and get no working tax credit, confused confused confused