If he's close to his ex how do you deal with it?

[GeetTallBird]

I am separated, as is OH, he was married for 26 years, with teenage daughter. His wife had numerous affairs and he always took her back.

Her last affair was last year with his best mate and she left OH and their daughter for the best mate. Who dumped her. OH blames his best mate totally and hasn't spoken to him since.

Now OH doesn't want her back, she doesn't want to come back to him, and I'm a bit jealous of all the time they spend together, that OH and she are setting up a new home for her as he wants her to be happy. He's buying her a fridge and washing machine today.

We are very newly together, just 3 months or so, just not sure if I'm reading too much into this!

I don't think anyone accused him of being a devious twat, exactly. The back-up plan is probably subconscious. He is probably not a bad person at all. Agree with everyone he's still wrapped around the ex-wife's little finger, though.

I'd be running a mile from him based on what you say. Seriously, he is way too involved with her and I would be totally unsurprised if they got back together.

Move on, you've only been together 3 months? Find someone with less baggage.

Sounds like too much hassle tbh. His ex shouldn't have any say in what he does now. Or what you do..

Walk away, and do it now as they will get back together

I would say that whether his ex wants him back or not, he has unresolved feelings for her. 26 years is a long time to get out of your system and the heart wants what the heart wants. I would be very cautious, and prepare yourself for more stress ahead if you choose to continue seeing him. Sometimes it's better to cut your losses before you get in too deep.

I am an ex-wife. Who is still sleeping with my ex-husband.His girlfriend also thinks he is a 'very nice bloke'.