Still in love with my ex, but he has a gf now....

[Mummyanj]

Hi, just as the title says, really. Have 2dc and am preg with dc3, I met ex when dd was a year and a bit old, we were together 7 years, have a ds together now 5, we split up 2 years ago nearly, we had a very rocky relationship, but he was Defo my soul mate if that makes sense. Our ds has severe special needs. My ex now has a gf of more than a year now but I cannot get him out my head. I have also fell preg to a man I barely knew. Were together 3 months...I am now nearly 16 weeks preg, I have had no contact with this baby's dad for 3 weeks, been split for about 6 weeks and there is no hope for a reconciliation, just to make that clear, don't feel anything
For him now, think in the beginning I
Thought I did, but didn't, my ex of 7 years is truly the love of my life....any advice? TIA xx

You need to let it go....

I think you're missing a relationship that you never had, sorry to sound harsh. It sounds like you are rewriting history to make the relationship with your ds' father better than it actually was - and comparing it (with some justification) - favourably to the relationships with the fathers of your other two children.

In reality the relationship was 'very rocky'. You have enough on your plate without wondering if he was 'the one'. He's gone. You need to focus on finding the strength to manage your family situation, I hope it all works out for you.

It will go eventually. The "love of my life" left me. It took me five years to get over him.

17 years later I think he is an arsehole.

I know how you feel, but one day he will mean nothing. I was utterly devasted when it happened.

Now I think he is a dick