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Can't help wondering ...

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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 18:47

Hi all. I am possibly embarking on a relationship with a v nice, funny, interesting man. However, he is early to mid 60s. Quite a bit older than me. Just wondering, how might things be in the bedroom if you know what I mean? Is it likely everything is errrrr still all ok at that age? Feel embarassed to ask, but can't help wondering. All encouraging comments/experiences welcome, thank you Blush

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Pandemoniaa · 04/05/2012 18:50

I should probably have namechanged for this but no matter. Let me assure you that all the men I know in their early 60s (including DP) function excellently in that department. Admittedly, I don't have sex with anyone other than DP but I do have reliable reports. Wink

I'm actually fairly horrified by the idea that 60 is in any way old.

WMDinthekitchen · 04/05/2012 18:56

Perhaps he is even now posting on a website somewhere, asking if a young woman could possibly measure up (!) in the sex department because she could be very inexperienced in bed!

ninah · 04/05/2012 19:00

60 IS old
old and randy being compatible

Frikadellen · 04/05/2012 19:19

60 is old if your in your 20's I guess. At 42 I think 60 sounds rather nice actually..

OP like any other age men some men are good in bed others not. Age doesnt really matter much there..

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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 20:22

Thanks, this is all quite reassuring. He is poss 65 ... 15 yrs older than me ... appreciate that some males are more talented than others in this area, but I did think certain functions might be a bit subdued by this age in some people???? regardless of talent I mean Grin

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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 20:27

OK, don't care any more - let me be blunt - will he have trouble getting/maintaining a hard on because of his age - that's what I'm really thinking Grin

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JustFab · 04/05/2012 20:30

I think we all got that!

izzyizin · 04/05/2012 20:36

Unless you spot a bottle of the big V in his medicine cabinet, this is going to be one of those occasions where you'll have to suck it and see Grin

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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 20:36
Blush Grin
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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 20:37

any more reassurances please?

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gracehedley · 04/05/2012 21:19

Any more thoughts please Smile

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foolonthehill · 04/05/2012 23:01

None to add.....why are you sooooo worried? ^^ these people seem to have it covered.

ThePinkPussycat · 04/05/2012 23:15

Twill be fine, I'm sure. He will erm... know a lot Wink

likeatonneofbricks · 04/05/2012 23:23

It all depends on your needs, doesn't it? if you are rampant Grin, and you like long sessions, then no, he's not likely to satisfy you, at least not frequently. Men towards 70 aer usually in and off (at best). If sex is not your priority in a relationship then you should be fine, but tbh you wouldn't know until you try it with him personally, it does vary between men obviiously!

likeatonneofbricks · 04/05/2012 23:24

ThePink - er..surprisingly age is no guarantee of knowledge or being able to apply it well.

likeatonneofbricks · 04/05/2012 23:26

'in and off' Grin - meant 'on and off' but that did describe a worse scenario!

ThePinkPussycat · 04/05/2012 23:30

Tis true I know, perhaps I am going by the blokes I knew in my youth, who will now be in their early 60's...

Recent experience have I very little...cobwebs here, but happy enough Grin

Lueji · 05/05/2012 06:03

No point knowing about other men.
You should find out about THIS man.

Unles you ask a recent ex... :)

But things can change quickly anyway.

izzyizin · 05/05/2012 07:35

When is the much anticipated launch of his this missile due to take place?

AKissIsNotAContract · 05/05/2012 07:41

My dad is 65 and his much younger girlfriend delights in telling me really fucking grim stories of their antics in the bedroom. If he's like that you'll be fine, perhaps a bit sore.

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gracehedley · 05/05/2012 11:14

OMG Akissisnot ...
I am not sure if or when this will take off so to speak. But I would expect "developments" to take place quite soon, if they are going to at all, as we have already been out twice. Next meeting is tomorrow Shock
I am only asking as this is such alien territory to me - only ever had younger partners ...

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ImperialBlether · 05/05/2012 13:50

It's a huge age difference, isn't it? I'm a couple of years older than you, OP, and think I wouldn't want such a gap. I've got ten years or so left at work and then retirement. Whilst I'm at work I want to be with someone who's also at work - for all sort of reasons. When I retire I'd like to be with someone who was retiring with me, so that we could plan how to spend that carefree time.

And actually, I've heard the opposite of what these posters have said. I think some have been very lucky, frankly.

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gracehedley · 05/05/2012 22:06

Oh lord, now I am feeling worried!! He is young and busy and enthusiastic though, for his age ... oh give me some more positive stories someone please!

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ThePinkPussycat · 05/05/2012 22:53

I could track down some of my old flames and do some test runs for comparison purposes??

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gracehedley · 05/05/2012 23:30

Oh yes go on Grin

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