What to do and how?

[MaryP0p1]

Me and H have had ongoing problems with years mostly relating to his moods and the effect they have and his spending.

About 3 weeks ago we had a row and I said enough was enough and that there was no future for us. He has promised to do this and that and TBH he is BUT I am waiting for it all to start again and the larger part of me wants him to go now and not wait till it all starts again. I don't what and how to do it and am very withdrawn and moody with everybody, I feel no control and am getting very weepy often. It seems such an enoumous problem I don't even know where to start with.

Do you love him?? If he keeps doing well and does not start again do you still want to be with him?? You have to do a little soul searching and think about what will make you happy and go from there. If you decide to leave there are many services/counselling that can help you through. Do you have any close friends/family that can support you??

I don't what I feel for him, I think I'm too close. I feel numb and angry.

I have friends and family but they mostly give him looks which say everything without saying anything.

I live abroad so certain services aren't accessable.

No there are 2 problems when he doesn't get him own way he fly off the handle and shouts at everybody and then sulks until he does, normally while clearing everything in sight.

The second probem he has got no control over his spendind and keeps running up debts. If I say no problem 1 comes into play.

what does clearing everything in sight mean?

Sorry meant cleaning.