Hi All
So I would like your opinion/advice. Basically I've known my husb for 7 yrs. at first his parents were v nice, generous. I saw them twice a yr more or less. We went on holiday together all of us, it was all good. Well until about 3 yrs on, when I lost my job, was living with my bf (their son). Mil would go ballistic about me using her son etc etc. Ok they are Jewish (not sure if it makes a diff) but culturally we are different. Mil's character is somewhat bizarre, she views herself as this gentle super kind super sensitive woman. However she disregards her very angry neurotic side, where she can shout, v v v loud at someone for hours, yes, hours. Skipping forward, they are now retired, and live in another country in Asia, not far from me and my husband and son (who is just a toddler). A brand new war has begun.
She bitches incessantly by the hour, screaming and shouting, and name calling (bitch! Bitch! In Hebrew of course) and says things like "huh you think I care about you, I card about my grandson" or "this food is for my son". Here is the kicker she is staying in my house, every 2 months, and each time I feel more and more uncomfortable to the point I hide! I have spoken with my husband who frankly cannot be bothered with this anymore.
Every day I have to take her verbal abuse & dirty looks & nasty comments. She says I don't give them their grandson for long enough. Everyday I increase the hours they have him but it's never enough!! Ideally they want my son not to nap, not to go to playgroups, just to entertain them all day.
This is happening... They visit every 2 months and I am stuck!!! I really want to say my piece and I tried before but this woman is crazy. She will only shout back, scary loud. She told my son (when he was a small baby) in Hebrew that I understood "your mother is a cruel bitch, bitch, bitch" ..
I know this is a long message.. But I am desperate here. I tried talking to my husband (who no longer wants to be a part of this). I tried emailing to them, reasoning. I tried ignoring her. I tried playing super peaceful and doormat-like. My heart beats so fast in fear when I know she will be arriving. A prisoner in my own house, and no my husband would never kick out his parents.
Your advice is greatly appreciated...