Awkward situation (long)

[GeorgesMum2008]

Ex and I broke up a few months ago after about 8 months together. I met him as he worked at the uni I was studying at and his son is same age in same nursery as mine. Age gap between us, I'm 22 he's 31 but due to having a 3 y/o DS I felt ready to settle down and wanted someone older. Really, really liked the guy and things were amazing. He referred to us as 'family' quite quickly although I sometimes wondered if I was the rebound after his ex and child's mother walked out on him.

Anyway fast forward, after about 4 months he started to act differently, distant... It all came to a head when my son was rushed to hospital, he had awful croup and problems breathing. Obviously I was a state and terrified, called my partner at the time who said he couldn't come to the hospital as he was going out for a friend's birthday. I was so shocked, after his proclamations of wanting to settle down with me etc... He thought I was unreasonable and my anger should be aimed at my son's father for not being there- which hurt more- as my partner I felt he should have been there.

Anyway after this we broke up. I stupidly begged for him back, wanted it to work missed him etc. he was having none of it. After the breakup, I was informed by a mutual friend 1 week later he was "in a relationship" according to Facebook.

The next day, I went to pick my son up and see him leaving with his son and a nursery worker- his new gf! I feel so incredibly awkward now every day when I pick up DS. I'm so angry out of everyone, he choses a woman I have to see everyday, who looks after my son. He takes her to pick up his son even on the days she isn't working, so my son- who misses ex- sees him arrive everyday and leave with the woman who looks after him. Sometimes he asks me in front of her why we can't go to exes house.

This whole situation is so awkward and I hate him for a) clearly having some kind of relationship with her when we were still together and b) the fact I have to trust this woman with my son every day.

I don't know how to handle picking up my son anymore, I've been doing the whole smile pretend it doesn't bother me but I'm so mad, this is effecting DS and he's very confused. Any advice?!

If it's only a few more months, let it go and don't worry. Kids are more concerned with their own inner worlds than what grown-ups are doing a lot of the time anyway, your DS will soon forget that this chap ever existed. Particularly when he starts school and has a whole new set of people to get to know.

I think you went into this relationship very full on too quickly. He has decided he doesn't want a woman with extra ties, and you have discovered that's he's not a stayer and not dependable and was very probably always wanting to keep his options open. In the long run at least you found this out now rather than later.

In future, I let a man decide how much of a commitment he wants to make to you and your DS, rather than simply expecting it or just listening to the spiel. Then let your guard down when you have seen that they are actually in practice the dependable type.

I'd ignore him and the other woman. I wouldn't bother reporting her to the nursery, it will only make you appear vindictive and also give the false impression that you still love him and give a fuck.