Think i have been dumped, what is the best way to deal with this.

[springblumen]

Been seeing someone for about 6 months. Quite serious, not seeing anyone else, either of us apparently.

This past week, he has stopped ringing and texting, only send a text occasionally, he works away so this is our main form of communication. He is not answering his phone.

I get the distinct impression I am being phased out! So would you make him tell you and "have the awkward conversation" or just fade away and let him take his cowardly way out?

I am inclined to make him tell me. I think after 6 months I should get an explanation, by friend says keep my dignity. But im not sure what is dignified about being dropped without any kind of explanation. Any opinions please.

He put "sorry to do this by text, but you did ask" um still not getting why the phone couldn't be picked up though and an actual conversation had.

Thanks, I second guess myself a lot but that is a pretty crappy way to do this kind of thing isn't it. He is a bit of a knob for doing it by text isn't he?

Yes, that is a nobbish thing to do

we all have the right to leave a relationship that isnt working, but there are ways and means that don't make you look like a prick

What a cowardly twatter! You'd think that a 6 month relationship would warrant a phone call wouldn't you...grrrr! Hope you're OK springblumen I know what you mean about the joys of being single, so just remind yourself how lovely it is (and pamper yourself while you're healing) x

Send him a reply: "Oh that's fine, don't worry. Just a hint, though, for next time you dump someone. Anyone with anything about them thinks people who dump others by text are utter twats, so next time perhaps treat the woman with respect and speak to her? Just a thought. Have to go,

Cowardly idiot man! Don't, whatever you do text back in any manner shape or form...he wants you to absolve him from the guilt of taking the cowards way out and he doesn't deserve it! I hate this about modern technology, a person deserves a 'sorry, I'm just not that into you' conversation at the very least! I prescribe chocolate, wine and something good to watch...

Hmmmm shifting responsibility onto you - "you did ask" Coward. Easy way out, rather not face you on phone or personally. It is a very crappy way to do things, but sadly not uncommon. Hope you've got some girly friends to talk to and unwind a bit - it sucks big time, but better 6 months in than 12 if that's any consolation. Take care.

He's a complete knob and a cowardy twat.

You really wouldn't want to be with him, OP.

Crosspost with WineGoggles!

Thanks, yes the "you did ask" thing got my goat a bit. I shouldn't have had to ask!

I would love to just reply with "fine, only maybe pick up the phone and end things decently next time why don't you?" but I won't. I don't think he deserves any dialogue from me. Let him sit there jumping whenever his text tone goes off in case its from me giving him a hard time.

What a tosser. Delete his number straight away. Hope you feel better quickly.

I'm sorry OP. I would text back saying its a crappy way to dump someone and shame he didn't have more balls. He can't get away thinking its all roses. Don't contact him again though, he's not worth it.

Awww you poor thing :( that sucks :(

Don't reply. Your silence will be much more eloquant than any reply you can think of. Comfort yourself with the fact that not replying will drive him mad

No replying, delete his number asap.

I know it hurts and feels shit. Been there ore times than I care to recall. But give it a few weeks and you will bounce back.

Good luck

It is definitely him. What a way to end a relationship. You're right not to reply - he will sweat now whenever his phone rings.

Is he a teenager? I'm surprised he didn't get his mate to dump you on his behalf. I think you're better off without him FWIW.

You really should delete his number, no use in PMing it to random people on your thread so they can text him and tell him what a twat he is.

No, no, that wouldn't be the done thing at all. PM me first Delete it straight away

bluerinse that would be brilliant except I just spoke to my sister and she said "if it had to end then this is the best way as you completely have the moral highground, what a spineless prick!" And I do agree that the moral highground is nice to have.

Also at getting his mate to dump me.

I know his number off by heart, which is a pain. I wish I didn't, worried about drunk dialling!

The general consensus seems to be its a really crap way to dump someone then? By text? It actually really helps actually. I am glad he did it like that because it really is a wankerish thing to do especially in light of the fact that a couple of weeks ago he hurt his leg quite badly, in a cast etc and I went and stayed with him for a couple of days and did ABSOLUTELY everything for him to help him out. I really put myself out practically and financially only to be dumped by text 10 days later, lovely.

He is a bit of a knob for doing it by text...

No, he's a bloody great enormous knob to put it mildly. Even my 17 yo college boyfriend had the balls to dump me face to face after 6 months - you're definitely well rid there!

To be honest that's modern communication for you whether we like it or not. In the same way that once we've left school expect that if we've been seeing someone for a couple of months we'd expect to be seen as a girlfriend/boyfriend, if I'd not been contacted for at least a week with no prior reason i'd conclude it was over and not be getting in touch because it would be obvious i'm not in their mind.

My first inclination would be to reply with 'Of course I don't hate you - I despise you and will always think of you with contempt. Have a good life'.

But I'd actually reply with 'Of course I don't hate you. I was intending to dump you when you got back . Have a good life'

He is a knob OP. I'm sorry but pleased you didn't waste any more time on him.

I really wanted to say something like "actually I'm quite relieved you've ended it, it was getting exhausting having to keep pretending we were any good together in the sack , see ya!"

I won't though. I'll be honest the wondering and not knowing was worse than I feel now, though I did cry when I first read it, it felt very harsh to have it done like that .

It was really good though, we had a great time together. Why end it like that? As it can only be remembered for that now. He will always be "arse who ended it by text bloke" now.