33 and feel like I've married my dad! :(

[3boysandagirl]

I'm married with 4 dc. My dh is a good person and a great dad. I know he loves me but when it comes to emotional support, there is nothing there.

I've had lots of issues with my family, some really bad stuff but my dh can always manage to see 'their point' over mine and justify what they've done. I don't expect him to agree with me all the time, I'd just like to be able to talk to him.

He hates any kind of confrontation and will always choose to bury his head in the sand, I now find I keep stuff to myself all the time and just don't discuss things with him now. Which in turn I feel is slowly pushing us apart. I feel as husband and wife we should be able to talk about most things.

His family are all very similar and none of their marriages have survived. I don't want ours to go the same way. I'm 33 and feel like I've married my dad to be honest. We don't do anything, we don't go out for meals, sex is just another household chore. On the rare occasion we do anything, it's me who has suggested it.

I've tried discussing it with him but his replies are 'well, I'm happy' or ' well everything costs money.' What can I do?

Has he always been like this?

He's always had a tendency to be a bit stuck in his ways, his dad was very similar. But he's getting worse. We are more like father/daughter then husband/wife.

I've joked about it but he doesn't see it.

It always gets worse. The flaw that is endearing in the early years is the one that gets them buried under the patio at the end. Short of some miracle you are not going to change this man's basic character. Never works. The choices are therefore to put up with his Mr Boring act, find stimulation in other aspects of your life and other people to talk to ... or to separate.

'well, I'm happy'

Bloody hell

I'd have spontaneously exploded from frustration at that. What, is that supposed to be the last word on the matter? He's happy, so it's okay?

How about remembering what it was like when you first met, there must be somthing that you saw to marry him in the first place. you joking about being like his dad won,t help try doing somthing exciting together or encourage him to use his own ideas what to do he might need a prod or a kick up the behind.