I'm really pissed off with myself for being so tearful about this. Basically dp of 9 months lost his job so he's not particularly in a good place at then moment which has an effect on me as there is a sense of incertainty with everything, he's been really trying to get a job and so far been unsuccessful. His best mate runs a bar in spain, which he tends to go there on holiday as its cheap just buying for the flight. Anyway it seems this mate has sort of offered him work there for a month, but to be honest I'm not actually sure if he's really paying him anything :-/ DP wants to go, said he won't go if I don't want him to, but I feel I shouldn't really stop him as he has a mortgage to pay (we don't live together). However it does seem to be turning out thats more of a working holiday helping his mate out a bit but not really getting paid. He's admitted to me before his mate hasn't been totally loyal to his long term girlfriend in England and part of the job behind the bar is to flirt and have a banter with the customers. This obviously is playing on my mind a bit, I can understand maybe he needs to get away to sort his head out whatever, but I don't know if I'm being pathetic getting upset about it whether I should be pleased for him to go, its really getting to me, can someone talk some sense to me please x