"I cant flirt when im single but weirdly i can when im in a relationship"

[Emmielu]

Boyfriend said this the other day & its been bugging me. Hes naturally popular with the ladies. As in he does have a lot of female friends as well as male. He's going out with his friends next saturday & as the only man who is in a relationship hes happy to be a "wingman". At first i was excited for his friends especially since one of them isnt very good with chatting women up but is such a lovely man. Until boyfriend said "i dont know why but i cant flirt or talk to women when im single. I can easily when im in a relationship & ask them for a drink & get to know them more" Why would you want to get to know another woman more when you have someone anyway? I could be reading this wrong & what he really means is in the benefit of being a wingman he could find out more about the girl then decide if the girl is right for his friend. But still...bugs me.

he is a twat.

That is because by being in a relationship, he has a 'get out of jail free' card if the ladies get ideas. Hopefully it is the reason you think it is rather than a slip of the tongue!

Do you know one of his friends who could be a spy for you on these (or similar) nights out? What is he like when you are out with him and friends?

I dont go out with him & his friends. In fact we hardly do get a chance to go out what with me being a full time mum/part time voluntary work & him working too. We dont live together or anything. I trust his friends cause they know me well & id know if something had happened because they wouldnt be comfortable talking to me. So i guess in that respect i havent really got anything to worry about have i?

It's because when he's in a relationship he has nothing to lose by flirting, so he's more relaxed and therefore successful. If he is actually looking for a relationship, then he's less relaxed and probably says the wrong thing or becomes tongue-tied.
What he tells you makes perfect sense.

I agree with taghain.

I think I may be the same.

Sounds like he wants to keep you on your toes and make you jealous. Not nice.

This is the sort of thing my brother might've said in his early 20s when was a bit big for his boots, until his girlfriend pulled him up on that kind of crap!

Why would a "wingman" be asking a woman for a drink? Their job is to ease introductions, help conversation flow then and there etc. sounds like he's looking for a new girlfriend, sorry.