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ive always wondered when do oyu take the ring off

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cod · 12/02/2006 19:00

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Flossam · 12/02/2006 19:01

Sell it quick!

nutcracker · 12/02/2006 19:02

Hmm well Xp had given me an enternity ring for xmas and I told him today he should have it back but he said he doesn't want it so I am keeping it.... i like it so seems silly for it to end up shoved in a drawer somewhere.

QE2 · 12/02/2006 19:02

I married for the first time 16 years ago; divorced him 10 years ago.

Still got the wedding and engagement rings in my jewellery box.

nutcracker · 12/02/2006 19:02

Mind you if i thought it was worth anything i would sell it

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cod · 12/02/2006 19:02

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nutcracker · 12/02/2006 19:03

My mom took hers off before they actually split, and then flogged them.

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cod · 12/02/2006 19:03

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FrannyandZooey · 12/02/2006 19:25

My ex told me to keep the engagement ring when we split up, so I did. I still wear it, it's a nice ring

NomDePlume · 12/02/2006 19:30

I've been engaged 3 times (one of those to my DH, natch).

The first ring was an el cheapo £150 job from H Samuel (got engaged to an impoverished factory worker when I was 16).

The second was a very pretty white gold diamond solitaire.

I kept them both until I met DH and we had DD (we got married when DD was 11 months old), then I sold the first ring on ebay for £75 and the second one I pawned for £400.

mistressmiggins · 12/02/2006 20:03

I took mine off when H left...glad I did cos the next week when he came to see kids, his was off too....

wedding rings arent worth much are they
my engagement ring is lovely (and expensive) - going to keep it and give it to DD I think....

have started wearing my wedding ring on other hand - DS seemed upset I wasnt wearing it so I have just moved it - doesnt mean anything to me anymore but keeps DS happy

I always wondered how long people wore them after separating - now I know

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NotActuallyAMum · 13/02/2006 10:13

I paid for my own engagement ring when I was with my ex - he put it on my credit card! The wanker

So when I left him I sold it and DP and I went out and got pi$$ed on the money

Levanna · 13/02/2006 21:46

I took my wedding and engagement rings off about 3 months before I managed to get xH to stop coming home from work each day.
He was a bit like a boomerang.

Wish the rings were a bit like boomerangs because I've lost the buggers.

Rach69 · 14/02/2006 13:43

Not sure what the 'proper' etiquette is (I think if you split before the wedding you are supposed to give an engagement ring back but afterwards you can keep it as it is a gift?) however I threw my wedding ring in a hedge in Devon during an argument very satisfying (especially as I think it cost him about £40 in Argos).

Engagement ring? Never got one of those, apparently we had better things to spend 'our' money on - says it all really!

Kelly1978 · 14/02/2006 13:44

I lost my wedding ring, and had my engagement ring nicked by a friend who 'borrowed' it and never returned it. So they were both gone by about three months after I left him.

leogaela · 14/02/2006 15:13

I took mine off before we properly broke up when I decided it over. Both still sit in my jewellery box. He sold his and got a bracelet for me in exchagne. Thinking about selling the bracelet (its not nice!) with my ring and getting a new piece of jewellery. Maybe I'll get round to it one day.

2nd time round, we haven't got rings so if we break up (which I am very confident we wont) no rings to worry about!

GDG · 14/02/2006 15:29

I think MIL is still wearing hers! Divorced about 17 yrs ago!

lou33 · 14/02/2006 15:33

i took mine off about a month after we split and put them in the safe

doormat · 14/02/2006 15:35

had to pawn mine years before split

gave all jewellery to dd's

spangles · 15/02/2006 10:13

I always thought I would never sell any of my jewellry coz they are reminders of the past (good times and bad) but after I split with XH I flogged everything he had ever bought me for next to nowt in a second hand jewellers.
I couldnt beleive it when a month later a good friend was wearing one of the rings I had sold! Her fella had bought it for her, I knew straight away it was one of mine when she showed me and never let on that it was one of mine. I asked her where she got it from and she told me the name of the shop (the one I sold it to) and to this day she doesnt know!
Anyway she doesnt waer it now.. she split with that bloke and married someone else so she probably sold it!
As for when to take off wedding rings, I took mine off a week after we split when I was sure I wasnt able to fogive the bastard for beating me black and blue!

bm3sm2 · 15/02/2006 10:20

I took mines off before we split, when I knew we wouldn't last due to his "brain" wandering ways. I think it was finished in my head long before it finished officially.

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