How do you tell if somome with mental heath problems is dangerous?

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I have a bit of a dilema - I have found out that a girlfriend of one of my Godsons is a fantasist. Didnt bother me overmuch for a while as it was mostly (I thought harmless) However my husband died 7 weeks ago and this seams to have triggered a 'response' in her - she has claimed to have got a part time job with Mi5 as a sniper (has army background but is 21!) and when I challenged her on it basically said she was licenced to kill and I should be careful. I did not takr this well and emailed a close family memeber to ask them to take a closer look at her. However they contacted her and it has gone ballistic. Now I know she is lying and I know she hurts herself for attention and I know she has precons for violance. should I be worried ? I am already very hurt that my Godson is anygry at me for raising this when all i was doing was protecting my family

Cut the OP some slack - she was widowed 7 weeks ago.

OP it might be an idea to step back from the forum too and concentrate on you and yours. Keep on keeping on?

I think there is genuine cause for concern here. In my own family, a cousin had become agoraphobic, was behaving erratically, making up stories and very suspicious of anyone and anything. Her immediate family didn't seem to see there was a problem, whereas I don't visit her that often and was quite unnerved by her behaviour and tales. She didn't go out, she told me, because 'spies are waiting for me behind the garden hedge'. There were 'snipers' in the window of a flat opposite. You get the picture. In that case it turned out to be undiagnosed paranoid schizophrenia and only direct intervention on my part i.e. calling in her GP for a home visit, put her on the road to recovery. Her family were annoyed at first that I'd gone behind their back. She now gets regular treatment and is much better.

Fluff - you are right again - I have unfortunfortunatly been proved right today and it dont feel good - She has never been to Afghan let alone blown up - sad as that epiosod and worry took up a year of my GS life but hey ho on we go