I'm planning secretly to leave DH & start a new life - is it possible??

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I've put up with name calling and abuse for years. I've always looked for reasons why. I am a SAHM have 4DCs, is it possible to start a new life & be happy?

I have an appointment with a lawyer on monday. I have lots of family who live 300 miles away from where we live at the moment. When I visit them I feel that I have gone 'home', so this is where I plan to move to.

What is the best way to tackle this? DH is incredibly abusive & manipulative.

Am I doing the right thing?

I did this OP. I waited til my dh (ex) went to work, left him a note and took my 11 month dd and moved 272 miles away. I had put up with 8 yrs of verbal, mental and physical abuse. I only took the clothes on our back and £700 that I had saved for 4 months. I even left his £400 gambling winnings that I found he had hidden in the drawer. The day before I left I went to my gp and showed her the bruises and told her I was leaving, I also went to see my boss (who later arranged a transfer to another office so I still had a job). I stated with my mum for 10 days in which time I found a house to rent, sorted my benefits etc. If you need to leave, it's possible.