So I've just found out he cheated on me years ago

[Marwoir]

My OH has a hatred of paperwork and gave me carte blanche to deal with a large box of his old post - got halfway through it and found a letter from an old friend of his (I knew her too). Turns out he slept with her whilst they were on a group holiday, the letter is her saying how angry she is with him for treating her like crap.
This dates from about 8 years ago, we had been together about 6 months.
I know it was early on, and it sounds like he gave her the brush off in my favour. But we were definitely in a relationship at that time, and he has never mentioned it. Also, I know that some of our other friends must have known.
I'm at home with the baby, and he's not home for a couple of hours. Feeling pretty crap (tbh, 8 months at home with a baby hasn't exactly done wonders for my confidence or our relationship). Could do with a bit of hand holding please!

His version of events sounds suspect to me, sorry.

Long time ago and much has changed, Try and move on from this and put it behind you.
But for what it's worth l think he is lying...

What Doha says.

I would be worried about what else he'd lied about.

I know a fair amount about my friends relationships as many are both independently friends of mine who I introduced. I know of one who has slept with someone else whilst in their relationship (about 9 months in) we were all young and not ready to settle down. I know, his wife another of my friends doesn't. My dh doesn't (IT WASN'T ME BEFORE YOU ALL GET EXCITED!) however they are a very happy family, he was stupid, it was a mistake and it wasn't repeated. I think he was testing the water, in a stupid fashion perhaps, however to me it was a one off. Don't get me wrong I am not comfortable with knowing but I do and we have both glazed over it. Doesn't make me feel any better but I think perhaps sometimes people need to test their feelings. However wrong it is.

He has given you his version and you put him on the spot, he has no reason to lie to you now I suppose and he hasn't. Only you can know your relationship at the time and there is nothing to say she didn't throw herself at him.

I hope you are feeling better now.x

Why did you initially think he had slept with her? It sounded like that was what the letter said.

I kissed someone else in the early stages on my relationship with my husband. Think it was a couple of months in. These things happen sometimes just because you don't always know your relationship is going to go anywhere. I confessed and he was fine with it, probably because he felt it was early stages of our relationship as well.

Well I don't think I would make too much of it after all this time. But if you absolutely can't help mentioning it you could just ask him about it in a non accusing way. But in his mind I think it will be something he regrets and probably doesn't want to talk about. And I don't think there is anything wrong with his version of events. And honestly who would want to be cross questioned about something that happened all that long time ago.

I would hit the roof.

And I wouldn't believe a word he said.