Should I move i with my mum or brother? help...

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I will try to keep it short.

Basically I need to move out of my flat, i have a 4year old dd. I do not want to get another private tenancy as I am getting closer to the top of the list for a council house.

So my options are, move in with my mum. I have done this before and was quite unhappy there, we get on ok, and she is good with my dd, but last time i stayed there i felt like a lodger and also felt like even thought I was paying rent etc, she made me feel like she was doing me a massive favour and I should be really grateful. my mum lives with her partner and also my older cousin. so dd would be living with 2 adult men and me and my mum. last time when i lived there my mum gave me a cupboard in the kitchen to out my food etc in and i really cant be arsed to live like a lodger again.

My other option is to move in with my brother. He is younger then me, we get on really well and he is happy for me to move in there. But he only has a 1 bedroom flat. He said he would stay in the living room. and sometimes has to work away for 3 weeks at a time. and when he is working here stays at a friends house a few nights per week. he is very easy going and would be happy to have us there for company and would be glad to come home to a cooked dinner at night. the only thing is he has a girlfriend and feel like he will need his own space. but if i go out at weeks I could stay at my friends while dd will be at my mums.

I have already asked my mum if dd and i can stay for a while and she said yes, but she doesnt seem too enthusiastic about it. Also last time i went to stay there I wasnt working and she wanted me to pay her £40 per week rent when I had very little money coming in and was going through a bad time. So I feel like although she is saying I can stay she doesnt really want me there (but probably does want dd there).

But my brother is being positive about it and seems like he wants us there. He even said if he had 2 bedrooms we could stay forever and never move out

anyway sorry if it was abit long. But what do you think I should do?

Why do you have to move from your flat?

I don't think you should live with either..... Wouldn't the council then see you as being adequately housed and you will lose your banding position?

I think you should move in with your brother, he sounds lovely :)

my landlady needs my flat back. If I live with either of them my banding will not change as it is not my own home.

alldirections - my brother is lovely he is being really positive about it, I just hate to feel like I am imposing on anyone, but do feel like I would enjoy living with my brother more, and he would enjoy living with me and dd. the only problem is he would have to give up his bedroom for us, but he doesnt seem concerned.

Move in with your brother. You'll be classed as high priority with the council so hopefully you won't be there too long. Don't go to your mums. B

What are the terms of your current tenancy? Your landlady should give you written notice to quit which you can show your local council as they have a statutory duty to house you and your dd if you become homeless.

Some councils will only offer accomodation in the event of a court ordered eviction but, if this proves to be the case, you're best advised to stay in your present accomodation for as long as possible/until the very last minute.

Your local ward councillors will hold regular surgeries in your area - get the details from your town hall. It could be that one of your ward councillors is the chair of Housing but, even if not, any of your ward councillors should be able to advise you and progress your case.

The council won't care if it's 'your own home' if you are adequately housed!

Homeless cases take priority over waiting list applicants.

Get your landlady to give you written notice to quit and speak to one of your local ward councillors about your housing needs.

Thank you all for the messages, I did have written notice from her and I have taken it to the council!

They said they can give me temporary accommodation but it will be in a horrible hostel and I really don't want to live there and make my dd live there!

So that's why I need somewhere while I am waiting to be house!