Post break up - feel dreadful..

[tiptop2]

..broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months last week as knew it wasn't right, initially felt great and positive about start of new things.

Yesterday and today I feel like I have plunged into a deep depression. Feel awful, so low and horrible. It's been so long since I've had a relationship can't remember whether I've felt like this in the past.

This is the longest relationship I've had in a while, and have split up with guys before but haven't felt this bad.

Is this a normal stage, even if I've been the one to break it off? It's not a sign the break up was the wrong thing to do is it?

Yes it's normal, and no, it's not a sign you've done the wrong thing. When I broke up with ExH I was really low - I felt I'd failed. I felt lonely, like I wasn't capable of having a good relationship, would I ever find love again, etc (I did, of course!)

You 'knew it wasn't right'. If you got back with him think of the compromises you'd have to make...what you'd have to accept that was unnacceptable before.

You probably have felt like this in the past but the memory fades - that's why they say 'time heals'.

Keep busy, be excited for what's around the corner and it wall pass

It's totally normal to feel sad after a break up, even when you know it was the right thing to do.

Be kind to yourself, take one day at a time and give yourself time to heal and recover.

My husband was an utter pig, the break up was traumatic and horrendous. After he was gone the weeks that followed were horrendous, never felt so low. It was confusing because I felt I should have been relieved. I think it's totally normal to feel like this.

I thought about him coming back when I felt like that and that felt even WORSE! So I knew I had done the right thing.

Thanks everyone..I know you're right...just finding I need confirmation about everything these days...I'm trying to listen to my gut feelings alot more these days (hence the break-up) but it still leaves me very confused..

Onwards and upwards.

I am excited about the future. Just need to keep reminding myself that he wasn't right for me when I go through lows of being single.

You know it makes sense tiptop

Oh I went and killed your thread

Hope things are looking up x