Dp and I have been together for just less than a year. I am very happy with him, love him to bits, etc etc. He is smart and funny and kind and gorgeous. I think this could be the person I spend the rest of my life with, and he says he feels the same.
However... our sex life is... lacking. When we first met he did say that he had a low libido, but already we are down to once a week, and he has begun rejecting my 'advances'. He does it sweetly, says he's tired etc, but this is making me feel like shit, frankly. It's something I feel we should be able to talk about - but I have no idea how to approach the subject with him.
We spend most weekends together, and he will usually stay over one night a week as well. I have an 8-year-old ds (who dp is great with) and I understand that perhaps he doesn't want to 'do it' when ds is sleeping next door. But I feel it's just dwindling away already. For example, we never have sex during the week, or at night (i.e. when we go to bed at night). Sunday mornings, maybe.
He is tactile and loving. We spend a lot of time kissing, cuddling. Part of me thinks I should think myself lucky to have a bloke who won't assume a shag's on the menu just because we're in bed. My xh was like this - a pest tbh - and in a way it's nice not to have that. But there's a happy medium, surely?
What worries me most is - if this is how it is after less than a year, it can only get worse, right? I know once a week doesn't sound awful but I think it's not great for a relatively new relationship. He just doesn't seem that fussed. His last long-term relationship ended because he said they'd become more like flatmates than lovers. I do NOT want that to happen to us.
Any advice? I love this man, I don't want this to become a huge deal between us, but sex is important to me and I find myself feeling increasingly frustrated and rejected with the path we seem to be taking.