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So I'm free of him now :) and I don't feel as bad as I thought I would!

12 replies

totallymessedupp · 23/04/2012 12:00

Hi,

Some of you may remember my previous posts and I would like to say thankyou for your opinions and advice that you posted.

I finally got him out of our flat at the weekend (well not so much me but a mutual friend, who won't take his bullying).

I told him to go last time and then let him stay (again he cried and begged and I crumbled) but I then found out more of his lying, cheating ways and finally just realised that he was never going to change. I am feeling better than I have done for years, I didn't realise what a weight I was living under.

I can honestly say I feel so much more alive now, its like I'm seeing the world in colour for the first time. Yes, I have a mountain to climb in front of me (sorting out our belongings, child contact, a new house etc) but now that I have made a stand I feel so ready for the challenge.

So, thanks again, I probably won't be back on today so no need to reply, I just wanted to share!

OP posts:
totallymessedupp · 23/04/2012 12:01

oops that was a little bit of a self indulgent post, I didn't mean it to be so! Sorry.

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 23/04/2012 12:02

You are entitled to be self indulgent Smile

Well done !

Now stay strong, and don't let him wheedle back (again)

pinkpyjamas · 23/04/2012 12:05

Well done!
Keep on posting and stay strong.

totallymessedupp · 23/04/2012 12:09

Oh no, AF, he has made his bed and he can fuck off and lie in it! I don't have any feelings for him but anger and pity. Anger for what he put me through and pity as he now has no where to live and when he asked if he could come back, I told him that he was no longer my responsibility. The old me is back and I will not be used and abused again. No one deserves what I went through.
Thanks Pink :)

OP posts:
patchi · 23/04/2012 12:12

brilliant and well done. if you feel this good now think how good you are going to feel when everything is sorted out!! :0)

AnyFucker · 23/04/2012 12:38
Smile
dreamingbohemian · 23/04/2012 12:44

Well done!!!

Hang on to that 'fuck off' feeling Grin

Rubygloom · 23/04/2012 12:47

Well done op.I know i will feel the same when i go Smile

ArtVandelay · 23/04/2012 12:52

Good for you!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 23/04/2012 13:30

Print this thread out and keep it somewhere close so you can look at it if he tries his 'poor me' act again. These things tend to be cyclical and it helps to be prepared!!! Well done.

finnbarr · 23/04/2012 15:14

Well done OP!!!

finnbarr · 23/04/2012 15:15

And agree with cognito.... You should print this out x

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