My sister has always been selfish, lazy and self centred ever since my nephew 2.5 was born she has became even worse. She asks people to babysit as often as she can for example for the last 8 days she has only seen him when she has been picking him up from somebody and dropping him off to someone else despite the fact that she doesn?t work. She has a massive amount of support but it?s never enough, she was only with the dad for a couple of months when she got pregnant and split up with him shortly after but he takes him from dinner time on a Saturday till dinner time on a Sunday every week and one night during the week for a few hours. His mum also takes him at least once a week.
She has a new boyfriend that she has been with since just after the baby was born ? they don?t live together but he is fantastic with him. He keeps him at his house once a week, his sister and mum also help her when she needs it.
My mum works full time but picks him up after work if my sister has him, even if he?s been away all day, my mum does all her washing and ironing cooks her meals and does her shopping for her and pays for it! My mum and dad are constantly arguing about it as he thinks my mum has enough to do never mind everything she does for my sister. The worst of it is she never appreciates any of it, she is always moaning how difficult her life is, how she never gets any help. She always says her son is a pain in the arse, he does her head in, she can?t be bothered with him etc.
He can only say about 5 words, he only eats crisps, chips, chocolate mousse, and cheerios apparently but when I told her he tried other food with me the answer I got was you keep him then if you are such a good mum, she doesn?t strap him in when hes in her car as he cries!! Anytime she has him she just leaves him to do what he wants resulting in him having several accidents and with him letting him self out her house and going missing once. Every time anybody tries to give her advice or speak to her she just snaps at them and won?t speak to them until she needs a babysitter. Any time I try to speak to my mum I just get told she?s on her own and needs support.
The last time I babysat for her I ended up with him for 3 days and I had to phone in sick to work because she hadn?t turned up to get him when she finally did she just said she deserved a break!! No apology or nothing I don?t know what to do anymore, it breaks my heart that she doesn?t seem to love and cherish that gorgeous little boy and want to spend as much time as she can with him. I don?t understand why she doesn?t see how lucky she is. I am constantly worried sick about him but don?t know what to do, I genuinely think she thinks she's a great mum as she is always slagging off other people and making comments about them not spending time with there kids etc.
Sorry this is so long and and for any typos/lack of punctuation I am posting from my phone.