A few weeks ago, I posted a thread about not fancying my DH for a long time, and asking for advice. I was the one who regularly cried in the bathroom after sex and hadn't fancied him for about 9 years? Anyway, I was so touched by the responses (and the lovely people who even PMed me) that I wanted to update.
Basically, I went to 2 counselling sessions on my own, and my counsellor was fantastic. She made me realise that I am being unfair both to myself and my lovely DH if I don't do anything about it. So, after very large glass of wine at the weekend, I finally finally broached the subject with DH. and you know what? It wasn't nearly as bad as I thought. He was shocked, but he knew at once that it's something we need to deal with. And he didn't crumble (which was my big fear).
So on Tuesday morning, we had our first counselling session together, with a lady from Relate who does sex and relationship counselling. It was bloody awful having to sit there and admit it all, but it feels very very good to have done it. And I know that this may not fix things, and our relationship may still be over but at least I am trying now.
But basically, I wanted to say to everyone out there who helped, and posted, or even anyone who watched with interest because of their own situation - THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. I don't think I would have done this without Mumsnet. and there is hope! Not fancying your DH is an issue, and one worthy of taking seriously.
Wishing everyone in a similar situation lots of love.