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how can i get rid of m.i.l?

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babyonboard · 09/02/2006 16:16

lol..I realise that the title of my post sounds a little sinister..ah well...

yesterday morning I was expecting her round for a couple of coffees on her way to a meeting in brighton. she turned up late, then said she didn't have the meeting after all and would stay for lunch.
she then invited herself to stay the night and has now gone out with friends and said she'll be back here for dinner.
as she lives in manchester, i'm almost certain she will be staying again tonight, but she hasn't mentioned going home at all or asked to stay the night.
last time she visited us on her way to somewhere ,the meeting was also cancelled at last minute and she stayed at ours unplanned.
i don't want to be harsh with her so accept all this, but can't help but think she just has no consideration of what we have planned etc. she also spends most of her time when here giving me very questionable and sometimes offensive parenting advice, and general criticism.
but then again, as her and dp don't get on so well, and we have just had her first grandchild i can't help but think her coming down and staying unnanounced like this is the only way she feels she can see ds, maybe shes scared to ask to come for a weekend or something?

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babyonboard · 09/02/2006 16:36

lol...

i know there are so many nightmare mil stories, but she is in a class of her own.
she refuses to sleep in our perfectly lovely double bed in the spare room as she feels too cold in it, so we have to inflate a camping mattress in the living room for her..??

not to mention treating us like a hotel, i thought it was the other way round with children and parents..hehhe..
she once got back to ours at 4am and woke us up to stay here , having been at the casino her best friend runs, she was very drunk..lol

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MamaG · 09/02/2006 16:39

I felt quite sorry for her when i read your first post, then I read your second!

Nightmare!

Sounded like she wanted to spend time with you all but didnt like to ask etc, but after reading your last post you need to tell her that if she wants to sleep over, she sleeps in teh spare room. End of. You can't have her laying the rules down when you have a baby to care for! She needs to fit in with you, not the other way round!

Failing that, tell her to eff off

WestCountryLass · 09/02/2006 20:36

arsenic?

WestCountryLass · 09/02/2006 20:38

My Dad does that, comes to stay, then buggers off for meals but does not help at all and is crap with the kids.

Mazzystar · 09/02/2006 20:42

lol WCL was oging to post same

Latz · 09/02/2006 20:43

Think an early wake up call will help - plus hoovering and don't feed her or give her drink.

mszebra · 09/02/2006 20:48

How does she get on w/ her grandkids? Would she like them bouncing on her bed at 6am, esp. if she only just rolled in at 4am? Maybe while she's out during the day the kids could have a fun time rifling through her luggage, too?

Latz · 09/02/2006 20:49

bolt the door and leave car unlocked?

starlover · 09/02/2006 20:51

do you know what i would do in future?

pick a weekend and invite her down. warn her that you've got rid of inflatable bed so it's spare room or nothing.
make PLANS so that she sees you and your dp and the kids while she is there....

that way she can come down without turning up uninvited... well, if you want her to come down that is! lol

7777777 · 09/02/2006 20:53

i dont rekon she has meetings, seems strange that theyve been cancelled more than once and she has her party clothes in the boot of her car.

i WOULD NOT blow up a bed for her!bloomin cheek

busybusybee · 09/02/2006 20:53

Babyonboard - to be perfectly honest if my MIL treated my home like that i would refuse to allow her in until she agreed to behave properly

Harsh but it is what i would do

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