No record of physical abuse?

[beautifulwho]

Wondered if anyone could help me with something that has been bothering me for a while.

When the police looked into my medical records regarding past physical abuse they couldn't find any evidence of my fingers being broken by my stepdad. I was 5 and I remember the nurse that did the bandages etc. We moved around the country a lot and basically the police sided with my mum and said I was lying. The case was never explored further although his foster children were taken off him and his wife by social services which I got the blame for?

So can anyone make any sense of this and if I wasn't believed why did they prevent my
stepdad being a foster carer? Need to move on and leave this behind, thank you x

I was 15yo when I spoke of the abuse and police involved as I was in a care home x

How old were you went you went into the care home? Had you lived with your mum up to that date?

You say that you rememebr the nurse who bandaged your fingers - can you recall if this was in a hospital or a doctor's surgery/clinic?

Should read: 'How old were you when you went into the care home'!

I was 15yo and I think it was a clinic, not a normal GP surgery as it was most likely a Sunday x

Clinic/a&e records would not show up at your GP where your main records are unless they had written a letter to your then registered GP to confirm they had treated you. If your parents were trying to cover up they could easily have given a false GP name and then nothing would ever get to your GP. Or it could just have been a clinic that didn't get around to informing GP. Your record would be archived somewhere probably at the place that did it. There is no central database to check on what treatment a person has had throughout the NHS - that's what the last government were recently trying to bring in but it turned into an expensive fiasco so hasn't gone ahead.

Thanks for your replies, so it sounds like the police didn't really go looking very far for evidence and my mum didn't take me to the Dr until my hand went purple the next day. I think it's just a case of people not believing/ my mum manipulating the situation to protect herself, ho hum

Even today medical records aren't kept track of very well, but back then it was even worse. It's likely no letter was written to your GP or one was written and lost in an old file.

It's likely that the police took your mother's word for it that you weren't in danger. That's no unusual unfortunately, people still expect mothers to protect their children and will believe them if they say nothing is going on. I think that's changing a bit these days.

How are you feeling about what happened to you?

It's never mentioned, other than to say that I was a brat when I was younger, it was my brother's dad, he was violent when he got drunk, my mum left him for someone else but I saw him every week as my brother went for weekly visits. Feeling a bit rubbish about it all, my brother lives with his dad now and it's his (brothers) birthday today. My life feels a bit like a car crash at the mo, I've started a few threads and the more I post, the more I wonder what the hell is going on in my life? It's a mess

You are still in my prayers - please keep yourself safe

I remember your thread about your husband beautiful. It sounds like you're questioning a lot of things that you've been accepting so far. That's a good thing, although I know it mustn't feel that way at the moment.

Ideally what would you like to happen?

Check hospital records. I fell over and broke my wrist years and years before computers were even invented. When I went back into the same hospital with problems with my first pregnancy, 20 years later (computers were still not usual, even then) the nurses said - Oh you broke your wrist when you were a child.
Records ARE kept. Trust yourself, not what others tell you.

Records are kept but the OP was only 5 years old and doesn't know where she was treated, if she could go to where she was treated, or if the place is closed down, the local health authority who would have been in charge of archiving records, something could be found probably.

glad to see you still posting beautiful xxx but sorry to see that life feels like it is crashing around you.