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MEN...........

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Emelie · 09/02/2006 14:43

Been with the boyfriend for 4 months( no children, im a nanny and live with a family)he just doesnt seem to understand me at times. his older sister just had a baby Thomas Finnley ( born yesterday 7lb4ozs) and i am gonna nanny for him 1 day a week, i am quite close to his sister and since ive been with him ive been out with her to shop for bbay stuff ( its her second) hes going to see her today and didnt think that i would like to go. Then we have the other probs, like him always workign, showing no affection. I really care about him. can you help me figure him out........... or ways to get him to figure me out........... please.........

just for the record i have no concerns about him cheatng i trust him 100%

thnak you

em xxx

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gravityrebalancingatlast · 09/02/2006 14:47

if your close with her, i dont get it, thats a bit inconsiderate on his behalf?

gravityrebalancingatlast · 09/02/2006 14:47

the again like the title of your thread....... MEN!!!

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Emelie · 09/02/2006 14:56

it was the only thing that came to mind...........

i am close with her, only been with him for 4 months, but i am gonna be looking after her baby for a day when she goes back to work. She runs her own buisness which my b/f works for, he is kind of a joint owner!

it was insensitive and really hurtful. he always tells me thta im over sensitive, maybe i am!

im use to cuddles an dkisses ( an not having to ask for them) also im not use to vying for attention especially when it happens to be a lap top im competeing with!

em xxx

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gravityrebalancingatlast · 09/02/2006 14:59

thats not over sensitive - that is what a girl deserves in a relationship - you deserve that. hugs and kisses make a relationship (oh and trust firstly)

he was thoughtless, that sucks

gravityrebalancingatlast · 09/02/2006 15:00

em - at four months babe - you shouldnt have to ask for those - after many years and what my dh did (long story) i think that is what broke it in the end. i had to keep having to ask for a kiss, ask for a hug.... it f*'d me off

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Emelie · 09/02/2006 15:05

i care bout him loads ( he had a really bad relationship- and this is the first girlfriend in 6 years) so im wondering wether it was because of the ex that he doenst show affection, he is getting better, i do get cuddles now at night.

evreything else is good, its just that.

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lazyanna · 09/02/2006 15:48

Em - I think a lot of men don't like to show affection - whether it is laziness or just some sort of inability to for any sustained period of time, I don't know.

It's true that this is pretty early ina relationship for it to dwindle, but I don't think, aside from that, it's unusual.

You need to talk to him about it, because otherwise it becomes too late.

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Emelie · 09/02/2006 15:54

ive talked......... believe me, all the says is hes not like that..... i get told off for being slushy or.. too romantic, not hgolding out any hope for v day!

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