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Advice needed re: husband is lying to me

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Buckfollocks · 18/04/2012 10:42

Follow on from 'do you actually trust your husbands' thread. I have found out that my husband has been lying to me. I am pregnant and confused about what to do. I have found out that he has registered on an escort/porn site and had tried to make contact with an escort. The message was not replied to on the site but that doesn't really mean much does it?

Please tell me what to do and hold my hand and help me to stop crying. He is away at the moment. Back tomorrow. I feel sick every time I think about what to do next............

Thanks

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charlearose · 18/04/2012 19:14

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izzyizin · 18/04/2012 19:20

Please don't ever change your name charlearose!

I'm going to send you a pm - you'll notice 'inbox' at the top of the page will turn orange. Click on it and you'll see a message from me - click on the subject of the message to read it and send an acknowlegement - or come back here to acknowledge receipt.

Bogeyface · 18/04/2012 20:18

The fact that he was looking for availability for a time when he is away from the home and you is all the proof I would need. By looking for further proof you are distracting yourself from the fact that he is looking to have sex with an escort TONIGHT.

I would spend the time until he comes home thinking about how I want to proceed and maybe even getting things arranged such as packing his essentials etc so he has no excuse to stick around.

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fiventhree · 18/04/2012 20:35

Well CR, I have one. How would you find out if your OH had ever registered on a dating site, but you didnt know which one, or have their password, but did have their email address? I am assuming it is a waste of time. I did try last year but only looked on a couple where you didnt have to register, and there were thousands in each city he may have used. Got v bored after a whole morning of it and gave it up!

I had definitely seen he had a dating site in his cache in 2010, but at that I was still naive and stupid and believed he had "accidentally clicked through from a porn site". I seem to remember it mentioned 'friends' and something also about paper bags over the head! (What the fuck- had he ever put one on mine, I would have kicked him in the balls).

By the way gmail does not save deleted email or enable its recovery, I think, as I wanted to be able to do this- my h had admitted finally to having a secret gmail account for sex chatting and related photos but had deleted all before being forced to admit.

charlearose · 18/04/2012 21:00

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Buckfollocks · 18/04/2012 21:24

Sorry just to clarify - he was on the site in late december - that was when he was looking and sent the one email. Same day that he registered so he has not sent or done anything on the site since then as far as I can see.

Charlearose it is interesting that there has not been much activity compared to the flurry you describe.

I still can't seem to get into the computer history or find out about emails stored etc. Am off you maybe search youtube or google.....

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Buckfollocks · 18/04/2012 22:05

CR you're a star. Thank you for posting on here - it has really helped me even though some people will think I'm mad for searching like this - I just need to KNOW!!! Does that make any sense?

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AnyFucker · 18/04/2012 23:33

charlea, you should stick around the relationship threads a bit more, you could be invaluable

BF, I don't blame you for wanting to find more evidence

what you have is enough, though, remember that

ThePinkPussycat · 19/04/2012 02:01

No to a cheater detection sticky, btw. surely that would just be giving them a warning of what to guard against?

charlearose · 19/04/2012 08:08

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AntiFeminism · 21/02/2013 13:24

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kittybiscuits · 21/02/2013 13:30

yawn Biscuit

CashmereHoodlum · 21/02/2013 13:32

Poor spelling isn't a crime, more's the pity.

CajaDeLaMemoria · 21/02/2013 13:36

You might need a better username to try and pull that one off, love.

SorryMyLollipop · 21/02/2013 13:39

AuntyFeminism - you sound a bit cross, is everything ok?

targaryen24 · 21/02/2013 13:45

antifeminism
You have no right in general to fuck a pregnant woman about...but there's just no telling some people. Isn't that right...

That's a nasty chip you have on your shoulder though...It's almost like you've been found out this way before or something Hmm Grin

kittybiscuits · 21/02/2013 13:50

I think someone got caught doing something really bad....You can get help with literacy in prison, I'm pretty sure.

AntiFeminism · 21/02/2013 13:50

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Sharpkat · 21/02/2013 13:51

Reported as several zombie threads have been resurrected with the same reply with the dire spelling.

AntiFeminism · 21/02/2013 13:53

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targaryen24 · 21/02/2013 13:53

Are you seriously not misspelling on purpose?

Nahhhhhhhhh Don't buy it.

Or sex for that matter...but each to their own Wink

AntiFeminism · 21/02/2013 13:56

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targaryen24 · 21/02/2013 14:04

You have no right to ruin someone's life...fullstop.

But there we are Grin

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