Broken up with DP..help, hope I've done the right thing!!

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Posted a while back about being unsure about current DP and didn't know what to do. Over past few weeks, the more I've thought about it, the more I think that we should split up. We had a big conversation last night and the result it that we're going to split up - slept in seperate rooms last night.

What terrifies me is if I've made a bad decision. He's a good guy - no issues really. I'm just not that attracted to him/not much spark going on. I've realised I can't live without this but reading all the other threads on here makes me so nervous that I won't find someone that's great, a good guy AND I want to sleep with!

My parents are going to be heart broken. I think they might be more upset than me. Think mum was mentally knitting booties in preparation for first grandchild.

Please tell me I'll find someone. And if I don't that my life will be ok without kids in it. I really really hope so.

You listened to your inner voice and it is better you left him now than in a few years time, with marriage/children involved. You should be really proud of yourself. Your life will be really good with or without a man or children, because you are putting your own needs and wants first. And there are never 'right or wrong' decisions, just decisions, doing nothing is never good.

Thanks Daffy - you make sense, it just seems really hard at the moment, especially as I know my DP is hurting a lot right now.

All my friends just assumed we'd get married...haven't told anyone but I know they'll be really shocked....fodder for the rumour mill about why I can't seem to find a husband. Some will be supportive but it's really horrid to think that I know some will judge as I know they thought he was a good guy...just not for me. Feel like a social outcast sometimes because I've never married/had children by this stage.

Well done!!! You did the right thing xx

Yes, you have done the right thing. I have had a similar break up just recently and was also desperate for children. It would not have been fair to have children though whilst in a relationship I was not 100% behind.

And, yes, you will meet someone. Don't rush though.

I am so pleased you did it, well done! It is def the right thing to do rather than involve innocent children in the inevitable break up a few years down the line.

You will meet some one else I am sure, probably the love of your life! Good luck I hope you both move on quickly. Dont worry about family, its not their life or choice and they will get over it.