How much affection do you show/receive from your OH?

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Just realised that affection is pretty much non existent in our relationship. It isn't because i don't love/fancy dh, we have just somewhere along the line stopped being affectionate. For example, yesterday we had a peck on the lips when dh left for work, a peck on the lips when he got back and that was all. This is just as much my fault as his.
We do still have frequent sex but we definately need more intimacy. What do you do?

Pre-children I wondered what was wrong with people who hadn't snogged for a week or so. DH and I would snog before he left and when he got back. Then it went to 3 pecks. Now he sometimes leaves to go somewhere without a kiss at all if it is the middle of the day. He always comes and kisses me hello when he gets in from work and we nearly always kiss goodnight but yes, cuddles are really important as we sometimes go a long time without sex.

What does PALFHK stand for?

I'm quite a cuddly person but DH is fairly demanding, almost needy? It was definitely a factor in his break-up with his ex and I'm not convinced she was as cold as he thinks.

Luckily my cuddliness and my ex being cold/using sex and intimacy as a weapon means I'm perfectly happy with endless hugs, kisses, bum squeezes. After being rejected it's nice. I do think we're loved up but there are also a lot of issues going on underneath.

(PALFHK - Peter Andre's Love For His Kids. There's a thread running in Chat at the moment - although it's headed for Classics. Only risk it if you have a Tena Lady handy).

Oh, okay, Thanks.

So, it's only been a day but things are improving already. Big cuddle when he came home, made him a cup of tea and piece of cake, made a big effort to listen when he told me about his day, cuddle on settee, held hands in bed led to sex - very nice. Cuddle in bed this morning before we got up. Kiss and
'i love you ', before he left for work.
Definately will continue giving affection more priority. I am feeling closer to dh already.

WOW!!! way to go!!!!!! what a nice post :-)

That is a lovely post. Well done! It doesn't take great effort and after a while becomes natural again. You have made me . Thank you!

Most of the time we are in the house.we always have feet touching if one of us on laptop or other watching tv.if we both watch tv we lie with arms round each other.we also hold hands when we walk most places and hug lots. Often i sit on his lap.we have always been like this though in private and public. it definitely is the more affectionate you are the more sec you have as i gave birth last week but doubt i will make much more than a week without some form of sex.

We only see each other on weekends, so from the cuddles/intimacy point of view, it's great, I feel more relaxed and happy to be affectionate, and he is the same. I do think if it lapses a bit, it's worth making the effort, sounds like it's paying off already, as long as it doesn't tip into neediness (a few hugs a day are perfect for us, but it's fairly spontaneous and if he didn't hug me I wouldn't think it odd. I do go seeking hugs sometimes though).