Can someone help me end an abusive relationship!

[needsomelovin]

He doesn't hit me, but he is verbally abusive and the relationship has been very volitile, I've never been in a relationship like this before. He looses his rag easily, shouts and swears at me, scares me as he's big and intimidating, nothing is ever his fault its always mine, but I just feel trapped I had a good friend but I feel I've lost her due to his temper, I live miles away from my family and I have 2 children to consider.

I've tried to end it several times before, but he always talks me around, making me believe things will get better but they never do. Last time I ended it he blew his top came round and kicked the door yelled and shouted at me so the whole street could hear. I was so scared I was crying shaking, yet still he managed to talk me around. It just seems the easy option or something, I'm feeling I want to end it again but I don't know how to do it, do I text, email, phone or just go quiet and hope he gets the message. I want him out my life but I need some help and support. Can anyone offer any advice?

Without knowing you or him it's very hard to advise for the best. However if you want to end the relationship then tell him, either by ringing him or texting him if that makes you more comfortable. Once he has received that message then if he comes to your home, phone the police. Tell them that you are a woman with children in your home and that you are frightened. They should then come straight away and they will either tell him to go away or arrest him. Do this every time he comes round. If he rings you or sends you a text do not delete that stuff from your phone, it is evidence. Write everything down, document everything.

If he persists in coming round and/or texting or ringing you, then, seek legal advice. I had this with an ex partner. I told my solicitor and we were in court the same day. The judge issued an injunction with a power of arrest attached (power of arrest is important). Every time he came round or rang me I phoned the police.

This is a shitty thing to be going through and I know how frightened you are now, particularly because you have your kids in the house. Do not be afraid to phone the police. That is what they are there for.

Honestly, you are in a really good position to get this man out of your life. He is not your DCs father and does not live in your home, you do not ever have to have any contact with him again and the law is in your favour in that he can be forcibly kept away from you. If he continues to harass you he can be put in prison.
Have a chat with the local police DV unit tomorrow, tell them that you are going to end the relationship with this abusive man and that you are frightened of him coming round to your house. Explain to them that he doesn't live there and has no rights at all to enter the house; they will make a note of your address and respond fast if you have to call them out ie if he turns up to cause trouble.
YOU OWE THIS KNOBBER NOTHING AT ALL, just dump him.