Am i invisible?

[nicskiz]

Help! I've been married to coming up to 5 years, have 2 beautiful children ages 4 & 2.
My husband works away and going through a rough patch that seems to be lasting a while.
Over the weekend we had an argument where it turns out I just look after the children & do a little light housework.
I can't believe the man I thought new me better than anyone thinks so little of me. Am I being unreasonable to feel like screaming?
Do I need to get a grip and realise how lucky I am? I love my children but it's hards work when you're doing it all week.
Am I a lightweight?

Does your husband acknowledge that childcare is work, albeit unpaid, and is incredibly hard work at that?

Therein may lie your problem.

Bloody idiot silly man. Why don't you stop doing everything else except looking after the kids and a bit of light housework?! Let's see how soon things fall apart when he has no clean clothes and the toilet's filthy.

Do you have a nanny/au pair/cleaner/willing-to-help-out Mum on a regular basis?

If not, no you're not being a lightweight.

He's being an arse.

Thanks for all your comments. Made me smile : ) and no I don't have a
nanny/au pair/cleaner on a regular basis.
I do have a very supportive mum and dad who help with my children but I try
not to ask too much as they're retired and should be enjoying themselves.
They've worked hard all their lives. However I am still invisible....

You might have become invisible because he works away and someone else has become very visible indeed.

"Am I a lightweight?"

You're invisible because you're not earning money. Men like your husband often define themselves by their earnings, their status, the car they drive and don't regard people who do unpaid work as contributing anything useful. Not always obvious they have this opinion when couples first get together and everyone is gainfully employed but can emerge when children arrive, women give up their job and then get downgraded to 'kept woman'. It's a horrendously old-fashioned attitude which, if you don't nip it in the bud, means you risk being taken for granted... as you are being.

With men like this therefore, you need demand a decent 'wage' for everything you do at home. If there is a price on it, he'll respect it. Or get a job outside the home so that you are contributing hard cash and not simply a dependent.