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If you've ended a relationship not because of abuse or cheating what was it that tipped the balance?

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margerykemp · 15/04/2012 16:20

I mean when a relationship isn't all bad and there are lots of things you'd miss at what point do you/did you call it a day over 'minor' incompatibilities?

Is it normal to change your mind about how you feel about a relationship from one day to the next?

Is the grass always greener on the other side?

Has anyone ever regretted breaking up a family?

OP posts:

Worldwithwings · 15/04/2012 18:32

My breakup was due to incompatibility. No abuse. I am friends with my ex and we have a good time with kids. I'm happy with that. Is that a happy ending or is there a necessity for me to have a new partner for that to be the case?

If you're not happy with a partner don't stay.

What is your situation?

claudedebussy · 15/04/2012 18:32

the realisation that he was not going to change and he was not my responsibility.

ElusiveCamel · 15/04/2012 19:09

Hi, margerykemp I ended a marriage (that involved a child who was 3 at the time) where there wasn't abuse or cheating. It was over incompatibility (i.e. we just shouldn't really have been in a relationship with each other) - together for 8.5 years, married for 4.5 of them. Not sure I'd have called them 'minor incompatibilities' though. Don't regret it at all, although I am sorry it happened and it was a very traumatic and difficult decision to make with regards to my son, but actually one of the things that tipped it for me is that I really wanted better for him than parents who are 'staying together for the kids' - not a good way to grow up and it screwed my exH no end. My ex has met someone he's serious about and says he's never been happier, my DS is doing well and ex and I co-parent well. I have changed my life, not as much as I'd like but getting there.

CuttedUpPear · 15/04/2012 19:19

I have ended a relationship and it wasn't due to abuse or cheating.

I was getting tired of the demands of the relationship, felt my XP was clinging and possessive. I called a break for a few weeks and felt so much better without him that I didn't go back. He made out that he was really upset but I think I just dented his pride.
After all, what person ends a relationship without another one lined up?
Quite unusual especially for me

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