I am trying to help my best friend who has just filed for divorce after 25 years marriage. This is the 2nd time in 10 years and last time she withdrew it after a few days. She partly does it as a test, to see if he reacts, although each time they have genuinely reached rock bottom, but she files in anger and despair. She admits she doesn't want to get divorced, but says that having filed, his reaction is not enough to make her stop it. She is constantly asking me if she has done the right thing- and I simply don't know and told her that. She has 2 other close friends who are urging her to go through with it.
Is this wavering to be expected, or does it show that she really should not be doing this?
She is filing on the grounds of UR but TBH had he filed first, he could have used a similar reason- it's not all his or her fault, as I expect is often the case.
I'm also finding it hard not to take sides because the problems are caused by both of them- not just him.