don't get on with inlaws, it's really bothering me.

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I wish I could have a good relationship with my inlaws. I used to get on with my exDPs family so well and it is such a shock to not get on with these people, but have to have them in my life. It is not the case of either party particularly in the wrong, we all just have complete personality clashes and if we weren't brought together by family then we would never have been friends if that makes sense. I have one young DS and they want to be part of his life, and I want them to be, but yet I find their company so so difficult. Anyone else out there managed a similar situation? We live far away from each other, so when we see them it is for extended periods and sleeping at their house.

Do they dislike you for some reason? How do they get on with your DH?

What are they like? When you say you have personality clashes, do you mean there are arguments?

What about meeting up for a weekend at place mid way between? I do not get on with my inlaws (wish I did too) but I have found meeting up at neutral place is better as neither party is in charge.
I have accepted that we won't get on like I want us to but it has taken some time and I do get envious of friends with lovely inlaws; especialy at "family" times such as birthdays and xmas.
I now distance myself from them for other reasons.
But such is life.

I didn't get on with my in-laws.... he was an alcoholic widower and she was his second wife specialising in poison pen letters designed to alienate his first family - myself included. They didn't come to the wedding, put it that way. Found that the only way they were tolerable was in short doses. If we visited their house I kept it civil. If they came to my house (not often, luckily) I didn't take any crap. :) But they were pretty extreme examples of humanity.

can you stay at b and b when visiting? people are much more tolerable in small doses. also wave off your h and ds and let them visit alone whilst you decorate/study/work/any other excuse