Should I go and track down P?

[neuroticmumof3]

P and I live separately but have DD(4) together and normally he spends weekends with us. He's a bit of a manchild/cocklodger tbh but I put up with it because of DD plus I get the odd lie in at weekends when he's here. Last weekend he didn't turn up as expected and hasn't been answering his phone or responding to texts. He hasn't turned up this weekend either and I'm fuming. DD is not a toy he can just dump when he wants a break from parenthood and he's only a part time parent anyway so I don't see what he needs a break from tbh. I know from mutual friends that he's not ill or anything. I know where he probably is and feel very tempted to drive round there and confront him. Or is this a bad idea? Just feel the need to vent really.

Who else but a manchild/cocklodger would put up with someone with bipolar is the way I've been seeing it.

OP I hope you don't see it that way now you've had some responses here. BPD isn't an inherent defect ffs and it in no way justifies cocklodging or any other childish behaviour in your P (and I would use that term advisedly given what you've told us about him).

He's wasting your time which could well be spent pursuing other interests and RL people who are there for you no matter what. They're not hard to find OP.

Good luck.

Thanks Wisedup. This thread has made me feel a lot better and stronger. I feel like I will now take control of the situation and not allow him back into my life. DD and I are worth more than he's been giving. I'm not going to text or try and call him anymore. If he wants to see DD he will have to do something about it.

Good for you, OP. Have a manly punch on the shoulder or a hug, whichever you prefer. Would you consider changing your name? I'm not sure that publicly branding yourself "neurotic" is the way for you to go.