which love language are you

[Magicmayhem]

5 love languages

I remembered this book on another thread and it got me thinking do you all know what love language you and your partners are??
I think we like all of them but is there one that stands out for you?

I'll go first..
I love acts of service... (sounds grim [laugh]) when I was ill and in bed my then new boyfriend, walked the dog, did the washing/ironing helped the kids with their home work, and cooked a roast... no one had ever looked after me so well.. not even my mum could top that. I was hooked... 3 years on hes still my mr wonderful, and knows exactly how to press my lauve buttons

so tell me yours

how does your other half press your buttons

all of those things apart from the giving gifts. Hes rubbish at that

I like words of affirmation and physical tough but dh doesn't do those much, so I often feel a bit unloved though I am far from that, and I have to make myself see all the acts of service and quality time he does instead. We get on brilliantly though and if I feel really starved of words I will ask for them and get a fix!

tough - touch, obv!

Quality time and physically touch. Me and my partner are very very close. Like best friends as well as all the other things

My other half doesn't press any of those buttons unfortunately.

I'd like all of them, but especially words of encouragement. Unsolicited compliments rock my world. I seek them out, I crave them. I stupidly worship any man who (probably because they can spot my daddy issues a mile off) tells me something lovely.

I put it down to the fact that my dad didn't love me, and couldn't even say anything nice to me at my wedding. It works negatively too because ant bear to draw criticism from any man and feel like I need to make all men like me. Hopefully the fact that I'm now aware of it means I account for it now. :(

i'm 80% words and 20% acts of service.

DH is 80% touch and 20% quality time, i think.

it took us several years to learn each other's languages. it's quite hard not to take it personally when someone seems not to love you... when in fact... they are probably equally stumped by your lack of appreciation when THEY feel they have been trying so hard to show you love!! lol.

it was v useful to me to learn that i can keep an eye out for other people's language, and adjust my expectations & behaviour accordingly. now i can get the warm and fuzzies even when someone has (for example) bought me a gift. not my usual thing but i appreciate the gesture more than i would before.

my sister is an extreme introvert and i would say until i learned that words were not her love language, our relationship was quite fraught.

Can you be a bit of each (they all sound nice!)

My husband is physical touch and giving gifts (I always get romantic gifts), with the odd act of service.

I suppose I give quality time and touch, but I don't much like having to do acts of service, probably because as a working mum it's pretty much my entire life anyway.

I think it is a helpful if slightly one-dimensional way to view how people speak to each other. And I do think acts of horridness can outweight them too, sadly.