I don't have a fab relationship with my parents, and to be honest only started speaking to them again when i was pg with dd! At 14 they through me out of the house because my dad lost £5 and though i had stolen it. (he found it two days later but never apologised) 6 months later after living at a friends..with no money/support from them...they asked me back..i went home after meeitn them at their local and them saying sorry etc. And 4 months later was told causlly by my monther that my father was not my real dad . However i was not to mention it and she gave me a load of cock and bull. We moved houses..and a few months later they threw me out again (all clothes thrown out of bedroom window onto front lawn) ..for lending my then boyf a CD..
Again i moved to another friends..but a few months down the line when social said i could not claim HB or any money as my parents were still claiming Family Allowance..their parents got fed up and asked me to leave. I lived between hostels and well...we wont go any more on that!
Anyway i moved into town eventaully and rented a house when i had finsihed college and got a job...i then met dp several months later and saw my sisters a couple of times. But that was all.
Anyway last night i rang my mother to tell her about Marks interview and mine on Friday...but she was out. She caled me back..and i was telling her about tehe job and the fact that Mark has to borrow money from MIL or Sil to buy something to wear as his others are ruined. When she commented that i still owe my sister £20....( we borrowed this off my dad a few weeks back for petrol and a pack of nappies as i had some registrations to do at agencies and we had to go to the benefits..) Apparenlty it was the board money my sister has given my dad...and we owe my ssiter it not them..so she is really skint too (she has just turned 18..and she is gutted that we haven't paid her back. I told dad i was paying him it this Friday out of my £70 wages i never thought he would tell my sister to lend me it and we owed her the money! I am appaled.
Then she started banging on that i must be sn idiot as if it were her...she would of received benefits by now..they have an emergency number and all this crap about not having electric meters fitted if you have children under 7..(bear in mind my mother hasn't claimed benefits since i was two as my 'dad' earns 27-30k a year..adn she also now works. She then went on to say that Mark cannot be looking very hard for work...as he should take anything..thing is he is applying but not getting interviews or being told he is too 'experienced' or why does he want to take a step back..blahdy blah! Does she not think tat i have been on the phone to DSS and taxcredits all hours since heis job ended in Decmeber..we've been through hell Since Sept..adn i wasnt asking her for any money...just telling hr what was happening.
I AM SO FRIGGING HURT! They dote on dd but right now i couldn't care less if i never see them again! They offered to help us out then throw all this back at us! We didnt ask for any of this to happen, and both dp and i have always worked hard! In all honesty i feel that she is jelaous that i have had good jobs and been to college..and also that dp is very good at his job..(he got her a job with his last company..one she would NEVER of got off her own back and the money was excellent..but they lost the contract to another firm and she has now lost that job)
Sorry to maoa on, but it took me alot to start a parent daughter relationship with them again, to turst them..talk to them etc..and she turns like this!
Arrgghhhh...dp was really concerned at how much they have upset me.....