Revelations with cheater partner

[BelleEwood]

Well...what can I say...have been told that my partner cheated on me repeatedly because of male ego. He wanted his friends' approval on the young, beautiful & international girls he wanted to sleep with. He said the reason he didn't stop when I found out on numerous occasions was because he wanted to have both worlds.

He claims now to be a changed man. Should I believe him??

Thank you so much. It's comforting to know there are men out there that can be trusted...but it will take time.

The full impact of it all is now hitting me & I am so angry & hurt, I could scream! What a roller coaster & pain seems to not want to get off this ghastly ride.

I am going to moan & I'm sorry. I need to vent my feelings. I saw pictures of the girls he told his mate had great legs & body & very attractive face.

They are not in my league of firstly being an faithful & at best of times a good hearted person who always put people first. Secondly, why the F* does he think my legs & figure are not sexy? A reality check for him - men want to do to me what you want to those women.

You are a sad loser if you can't appreciate my having all these qualities & being a mother, confidant, friend & lover to you.

Your loss may well be someone else's gain!!!!!! I hope one of your young flings from whatever bloody continent, f*s you up the same way. I never wished ill on anyone...but may you pay for all the hell you put me through!

if you have dc's it's even worse imo, he knew that cheating on you could possibly split up his family and even that wasn't enough to stop him

you go Belle, vent! Get it off your chest! There is someone out there who will test you a bajillion times better.

You're so right. His such a prick. Why does he think like that? So irrationally...just to get Hi 5's

Sorry...hit send by mistake & still composing the message...too many darn tears!

He bragged when we got together to his friends, very proud to show me off. Now that I found out two of his best mates, one in particular knew of all this, makes me feel physically sick.

We all went on holiday with the kids not too long ago. When I told him I was going to ask this friend as I needed closure, he immediately said it's his fault, not the friends...very defensive....makes me wonder why....

A trip to the GUM clinic would be a really good idea.

And then perhaps some serious counselling/therapy about the way YOU and he both seem to define women as sexy/ego/in leagues/glammed up/as commodities.

I am deeply affected by all this & I think counselling will be the only thing to help me retain any sort of sanity to move past all the grief & upset

OP, what a good idea ... But, go for you huh, don't go with snivelling snot face will you.

And dare i say take no notice of what people say about the way you have obviously had to see yourself being an ex model. Having to be more beautiful than the next as a woman must be soul destroying. Hubby is a serial wanker philanderer and always will be.

Thank you hun, those messages really gave me a further boost! No I will not take the snivelling snot face lol.

It's so nice to have someone who understands about three pressures of women in general - whether ex models or not. It just proves that looks will not safeguard against infidelity. I think this has made me more insecure than I ever was.

My whole world has changed & dealing with the upset part is the toughest bit

You will though Belle, Of that I'm sure.

Warm hug