So gutted- just found out that the guy I like actually likes me too!!

[marathonrunner]

I have liked this guy for about 1.5 years but we are both quite shy. He is a single dad at my son's school and tbh I only ever see him at the school pick up/drop off. We usually have a bit of a chat. I was never really sure whether he liked me or not.

Anyway, today, he unexpectedly came over with his daughter and the children played and we were chatting and he told me that he liked me

However, the problem is, I am moving to another city 150 miles away in 4 weeks!! I can't believe it. Why didn't I say anything sooner?? I know there isn't anything anyone can do, I just wanted to rant.

We are going to keep in contact on FB so at leat we will still be friends but still

Hah! Don't write it off... You could meet in the middle.

Don't laugh!!! I always said I wanted to meet someone with a child as I don't really want anymore kids. Bloomin' typical!!

Why didn't he say something sooner? Maybe he's the type that only feels comfortable when the object of his lust affections is not within easy reach?

I have no idea tbh. It's not like we spoke everyday. There were long school holidays where we wouldn't see each other and then I was on placement at uni for months at a time so wouldn't even do the school run (DS was collected by CM). I just admired him from afar

Did he know you were leaving?

How far in time are those 150 miles?

I'd say it would be ok for weekend visits, probably.

A friend of mine was in ages in a relationship with someone in another town, then moved together.
Another married friend works about the same distance from his family and comes home at the weekends.

It is possible, just slightly more complicated. :)

If you are both shy, it could work to your advantage. You already know you fancy each other (so that bit is sorted) and you can get to know each other from a distance and take things at whatever pace suits you both.

Do not despair.

No, he didn't know I was leaving

This is so annoying. It's about 2hrs on the train (neither of us drive). Have to see how things go. Just be mates for now I guess. I am down about 4 times this year for various reasons though.

Let's hope those reasons become even more varied...

You can make this happen if you want it to (and he does). Please don't be sad. This could be the start of something very lovely for you both/all.

Dont lose heart, my dh used to travel from London to Cornwall to see me every weekend (over 5 hours by train) for about a year before we decided to move in together, and subsequently get married, so it can work if you want it to.

He would say 2 hours is nothing!