I am v lucky to have dh.

[OracleInaCoracle]

I suffer from a v painful chronic skeletal condition that affects my joints as well as bones. I am in the midst of a flare up and can barely move. I kept dh up all night, in pain.

He has taken the day off work to look after me while I try to rest and look after ds.

He has run up and down the stairs, sat me up, helped me to the toilet and administered painkillers.

Must remember that next time he puts the milk in without taking out the teabag.

...as he is very lucky to have you

We've had some very rough times over the years, and the mc's have taken a huge toll. But he doesn't moan about having to look after me, or helping with the housework, or lack of sex...

Milk AND teabag - this is abuse - leave the bastard!! No really, it's lovely that he's like this and lovely that even though you're in pain you still appreciate it. Hope you're feeling better soon!

Eggy, true. It is a reciprocal relationship, where we are equal.

Eggy, true. It is a reciprocal relationship, where we are equal.

He sounds like a keeper. How lovely to hear of a bloke who doesn't start spitting the dummy out at the first sign of a rough patch.

I do believe there are plenty of these men around though.

He sounds lovely.

As is my DP. They don't get enough praise on here at times I think but for goodness sake don't tell him he'll get ideas above his station

When I was a child my father took on most of the care for my mother for several years when her epilepsy and other conditions were so bad she was often bedridden. Having seen their strength (especially from my mum) in the face of illness they are both massive inspirations to me and I'm sure your son will feel the same way about you both :)

Yep, we hear so many bad stories about people treating their partners badly. The good 'uns don't get enough airtime!

Yep, we hear so many bad stories about people treating their partners badly. The good 'uns don't get enough airtime!

Panamama, thank you. I'm so scared that ds will grow up resenting me for being so ill.

I have actually filled up with tears

Good to hear it Oracle. And I hope you start feeling better soon.

My DP is a gem too!

I'd like to echo that about my DP. I have 4 prolapsed discs, and after driving around all weekend visiting family, my back has given up completely and I have been confined to the sofa for the past few days. As always, DP has taken over all childcare, brought me coffees and biscuits, and is there to snug with at the end of the day when the kids are in bed.

He's a wonderful man and I am lucky to have him (as he is lucky to have me, who doesn't mind doing several hundred mile round trips to visit his mother )

yep, sadly, the good ones dont get as much airtime as the bad.

DH is currently cooking dinner and has offered to take tomorrow off too if I need him to (I am pretty useless during a flare up)

and he will help me into and out of the bath later too.

That's lovely

There are a lot of good men out there

Good to hear of other lovely dhs! My dh has looked after me for the past year. And dd when I haven't been able. Bless him, but yes never mention it, he'll think he's Batman or something - or is that just my dh?

Thankfully, I am in good health at the moment (and luckily all through my life so far)

DH respects me, respects our dc, respects his family but most of all respects himself

He is currently outside wrestling with the car after being at work all day, while I sit on the sofa watching 'Enders and Mn'ing

Later he will sort out his taxes and then fall asleep in his chair

No drama here, and that's just how I like it

I filled up with tears too, it's just so lovely to hear of the kindness of your DP
I have a similar condition- is yours Tietzes, thanks for reminding me to be thankful I hope you feel better soon ?

Eggy, you've hit the nail on the head. Some people think that unless a relationship is filled with games and rows its dull, its not. Its pretty damned nice.

Blapbird, a form of, teitzes normally affects one rib at the sternum, mine affects all of them at sternum and spine.

Eggy, you've hit the nail on the head. Some people think that unless a relationship is filled with games and rows its dull, its not. Its pretty damned nice.

Blapbird, a form of, teitzes normally affects one rib at the sternum, mine affects all of them at sternum and spine.

I am always filled with dismay when I see posters describing the constant drama of their relationships

How do they ever feel any peace within themselves ? I guess they don't

I definitely know that if I had stayed with one or two of the men in my past, I would be living a very different kind of life right now

Horray for great men and lives with little drama
Oracleinacoracle (great name btw) I find that stress and caffeine bring it on quite badly for me I have to live on anti inflams. I hope it reduces very soon, it's horrible I know

Nothing so serious, but I have been I'll with stomach upset all day, and all family have rallied round, even bringing me a particular drink I fancied from a shop in the next village!
And I would do the same if/when the situation is reversed.

No drama in our house either, AF, no flouncing, sulking, shouting, nothing like that. We do get a bit grumpy sometimes, but we can both say 'I am feeling grumpy at the moment'. I couldn't live any other way.

Hope you are better soon oracle