Just trying to get all this toxic out of my head 
XH and OW (never happened apparently) married. 4DC live with me (7-14) and have done since split - 2 years +. I am [happy], job, car, own home, beautiful kids, new man 
, life would be great if XH would stop being a twunt (like that word from another posting 
).
I don't know if it is guilt? jealously? or what BUT every so often XH thinks it perfectly reasonable to point out
how he see his DC MORE than anyone he knows! (4 hr in week and every other weekend)
how grateful I should be HE has given ME a priviledged life!!
regularly he can't have DC as he has plans
won't have them if I ask because it is 'helping me out' and I already have it easy!
I don't seem to be struggling so he may have to cut my maintenance
Blah, blah, blah, blah
I have always kept all communication short and to the point, I NEVER put any emotion into my replies but a 2 liner about asking him to have them results in a 2 page rant!
Was with XH for a long time and stupidly thought we could be civil post his infidelity which led to the break up of our family. Well I can, why can't he?
Arrggghhh, I really have moved on but I find that every time he puts me down he reignites the hurt again and I make myself angry for letting it bother me the way it does ... and relax with a 
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