Been with dp for 17 years. Relationship always been very sexual. I had a very high sex drive until the birth of our son, 4 years ago. The first year or so, sex was still good but the quantity went down from 5-6 times a week to once or twice.
There was a family bereavement 2 years ago, during which dp turned to sex, wanted it more than me. We worked different hours, me day time and him nights which meant love making was always either very early in the morning when I have to get to work and get son ready for nursery or in the middle of the night when I'm fast asleep and he comes back from work.
I had problems falling pregnant, had two minor surgeries and as a result lost one of my fallopian tubes. Ivf seemed inevitable and we had all the relevant tests. Was also adviced to have sex every other day which wasn't fun.
I fell pregnant naturally. Baby no.2 born 6 weeks ago. The birth was easier than my first. My first, I had forceps delivery, episiotomy and extended tear. This time only first degree tear but had problem urinating for the first 3 weeks, had to stand to wee otherwise couldn't go. Although all healed well on the outside now, the opening to the urethra is still slightly swollen and uncomfortable. Sometimes still have to wee standing.
Dp wants to try sex but I don't feel like it. My libido is not what it once was. I feel drained and tired and sex quite frankly isn't important to me anymore. This is causing major friction and a lot of stress.
Would like to hear from other women and men, what sex life is like after kids. How long did it take for you to have sex again after childbirth?