is it better/easier if its your decision to seperate?

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Have recently seperated from my h.... my decision and i know its the right one.... but not an easy or quick one... we have 2 dc who have actually been really fine with it all.... this week was the first time they have stayed with him, and they will do now every week... which is great for all of us.... but it is still hard to hand them over
in fact seperating is still hard,, even though it was my decision.... all i hear is 'its alright for you/its easier for you, it was your choice'.... but actually i'm not finding it that easy.... yet also feel i have no right to find any of it difficult....

No, not necessarily. There are pros & cons to being on either 'side' and of course the reasons and circumstances mean that even if someone does make the decision it isn't easier at all.

no its not. Its different, but not any harder or easier I think.

i finished with my fiancée of 4 years a few months ago, and he's got himself a new girlfriend already, and I found that harder to deal with than I thought I would. people didn't really understand why it bothered me that much, because it was me that ended it, but its still a very weird thing to deal with.