online dating.....

[KimmySparkle]

hi all
decided to try online dating
after talking with about 15 different blokes,exchanging numbers with around 5,arranging to meet with two
am getting really disheartened,it seems that a lot of these men are only intrested in online chat and not actual meets,not to mention my self confidence has taken a battering with the whole yeah id love to meet scenario then not following through??
its making me think that theres something wrong with me?!
i have had one date which prior to we had lots of contact calls texts etc all seeming well ,the date i thought went ok we had lots to talk about ,no awkward pauses ,he was nice clean and normal ,we chatted and flirted for 2 hours then when he walked me to my car he gave me a quick kiss on the lips the sprinted to the car in record time and drove off that fast i was still looking for my keys by the time he was down the road!!!!!!!
i know i shouldnt feel like this and i should be a bit tougher but i havent dated in 10 years so a bit out of touch with the rules etc,i did text him as i said i would with no reply so as you can imagine im feeling very rejected.
any advice appreciated

Just take a deep breath and try again!

Honestly from what you've described, online dating is not that much different in practice to other dating.

It's years since I've dated, as I'm married, but if there had been online dating years back i think it would hav e been great! Far better than hanging around in pubs, clubs and parties t os ee who took your fancy and if they noticed you!

All dating involves possible let- down- guys standing you up ( been there !) and not living up to expectations.

Just grow a tougher skin.

Oh Kimmy, we've all been there. You develop a very thick skin when internet dating but I can can recall feeling exactly like you. There's nothing wrong with you at all. I took the pressure off myself by saying I would meet as potential friends and nothing more.

I also had not dated (or had any physical relations) for a very long time. The first person I met up with kept me dangling on for months and it took a couple of posts on here to find out all about internet dating and armed with my new found knowledge, I kicked him into to touch.

I've been out with quite a few blokes over the last year or so and my confidence has grown but I have yet to find someone I think I could settle down with. I'm seeing a couple of guys off and on but I think I know in my heart that they are going no where - not that I have the time for a full time relationship but you know, I'm only human and would love to have that one special person.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and go back and select a few more! Good luck and set your expectations lower in terms of what you expect out of the first meets. It's a chance for you both to see whether you like each other and for every guy that doesn't like us, there are ten more that we don't actually like.

thanks to those who replied.
in all honesty though i was wondering if maybe the fact i was with an abusive ex partner for a long time
is rubbing off somehow on these guys and they get the feeling that im vulnerable?
as suggested i will carry on chatting but im not expecting it to lead anywhere.
my best single mate has recently found a bloke through work and while im thrilled for her ,i do feel a touch green eyed :(

I've just started internet dating and not met anyone yet. I have a meeting lined up for tomorrow (although unsure if I'm going to go ahead with that yet!) and one for Friday. I'm nervous as hell and I would be very upset if I got stood up so I understand how you must be feeling.

I like Feedbacks suggestion though - we're meeting for potential friendship, nothing more. That does take the edge off the nerves a bit.

Do you think you need to work on your self esteem?

You sound a bit low in confidence.

I doubt you are giving off " ex abuse" vibes but men say confidence is the biggest attraction.

Maybe you should try to work on that?

I've been internet dating - on and off - for about 2 years. I don't take it too seriously, because you need a skin of leather to start with.

Most of the time it's like hunting for a needle in a haystack. There are a lot of nutters and there are a lot of people just flirting with you, with no intention of actually meeting.

Just treat it as a bit of fun, with hopefully the chance to meet some interesting people.

However I have just met the loveliest man in the world, as has my flatmate (not the same man), on the internet mmmm

I'm dipping my toe in too. It's definitely like finding a needle in a haystack. It can also ne quite entertaining. I've had absolutely no luck whatsoever but then I'm probably too picky. Keep at it and see it as a bit of harmless fun. Who knows, someone lovely night turn up.